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June 28th, 2013, 10:45 PM
Join Date: Oct 2010
I can understand this is a big shock, wow! But please don't feel obligated to tell everyone who your baby's father is if you don't feel it's in this little one's best interest. There was recently even a high profile celebrity who decided to keep it to herself who her child's father was -- and I'm sure it was even more challenging for her with all those prying eyes! If she didn't have to to, neither do you!
My advice to you is not to worry about the reactions of others or how it will effect the young man involved. It's your son or daughter you need to focus on right now. That little baby needs you, your protection, your love, and your nuture. Yes, it's a big job and of course it's overwhelming to be surprised, but the joy from such an unexpected gift can be equally overwhelming, in the best of ways.
Take a deep breath, take a few weeks just to enjoy your secret for yourself. Don't feel pressured to tell anyone right now. When you do decide to break the news, make sure you've given yourself enough time to decide just how much you'd like to share with those close to you. This is your sweet baby, and it's your decision which part of the story you'd like to keep to yourself.
You can do it, mama! I had a tiny son this year after my husband got a vasectomy, and while a complete shock, I wouldn't change it for the world. Sometimes I think a surprise baby is the sweetest kind. You don't have to agonize about whether or not to try to get pregnant, or spend months trying, you just get to wake up one morning and find out you're on a crazy, delicious, exciting adventure. I don't know how old you are or why you got your tubes tied, but I think you'll look back at this moment as one of the best things that ever happened to you!
I suggest you join a due date board on this site - it's a lot of fun to be in a community of diverse mamas all due at the same time as you are. Best wishes and keep us posted!
Brooke, happy mama to one girl (9), and four boys (7, 5, 3, and 2) and a surprise post-vasectomy miracle baby born February 7.
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