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July 21st, 2013, 04:33 PM
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Originally Posted by alittlelost View Post
My experience when talking about birth has been that people want to make me feel ridiculous for having had a natural childbirth with my youngest son and preferring that. But if you explain WHY you are glad you did it, they get defensive and think you are judging them. But you aren't. They are judging you, and you are just sharing why you made the choice (since they are expressing they don't "get it'). It doesn't mean you think their birth choice was wrong. But some how they makje the NCBing mama feel like SHE'S the judgmental one. Saying why *I* choose NCB is NOT saying people who choose otherwise are wrong. Yet the ppl who act like that's what you are saying are the ppl who outright tell you you are crazy for your choice... (I guess they are just projecting when they say YOU are the snob...)

That's exactly it. It pops up in other areas too (I've also gotten it for expressing a desire to EBF and cloth diaper) but birth is definitely the most emotionally charged one. If someone else had/plans to have an epidural (or uses sposies or feeds their baby with formula), it really doesn't matter to me or affect my view of that person as a woman or a mother. I don't think mamas who don't choose NCB are "less than" or that their births aren't as legitimate or that I'm superior in some way because I am choosing NCB (assuming all continues to go well, of course). We all make the best choices we can for our own realities and preferences. It's not a competition.
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