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July 25th, 2013, 09:32 AM
Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Cincinnati, OH
You're right, he probably is feeling a bit shocked. Which is normal. He might also be wondering what exactly you expect of him. While he may be coming to terms with being a father unexpectedly he may also be resistant to the idea of marriage. Too much commitment. Too many big things at one time, lol.
So try to reassure him that you're committed to keeping the relationship at a steady pace. You'll both work on getting ready for this baby (you're pregnant for almost a year after all, lol) but try to keep this separate from your relationship. In the meantime, try to limit talking about the baby. Let him bring it up. Get all of your baby excitement out with your friends and family. It's okay to be happy and excited even if he isn't. Just try to respect his space for now.
I would also firmly state that if he feels now that he wants to end the relationship that doesn't make him any less responsible for the baby. If he doesn't want to be in the baby's life, fine. But he needs to make that 100% (a father going in and out of a child's life is chaotic and confusing). And he still needs to pay child support. If he gets angry about it later you can always offer the option that he can forgo child support if he gives up custody. It's not ideal but for some people it's best to make a complete split.
'Scuse the bad typing, please. 'Breast is Best' but not when browsing the internet!
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