Daughter in law not handling multiple losses well.
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October 9th, 2013, 11:37 AM
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It has recently come to our attention that our son's wife has had issues with recurrent miscarriage. My husband and I have never pushed grandchildren on our son and his wife, we had assumed they were taking their time. About two months ago it had become obvious she was pregnant, but neither of them really came out and said it. You can only hide a pregnancy so long, but we never pointed it out. They would announce it when they were comfortable.
When she lost that one, it was also pretty clear. When we found out our son said it was not her first lost, her second loss, or even her third loss. She had asked him not to bring it up with us since the first loss. He says she feels not only guilty, but there's a lot of shame as well for her.
This last pregnancy was the furthest she had gotten. I believe my son said she was eighteen weeks or around that. The others had been far earlier. I don't know if that has anything to do with it, but now she has become very withdrawn. She tends to avoid us. She would come over at least once a week for lunch. I have been told she sleeps in their guest room now. She had been seeing a fertility specialist but told my son she doesn't want to anymore. Adoption and surrogacy is nothing she wants to hear about. I really am at a loss as to what to do for her. I did not have any issues with my own pregnancy, so I have no idea how to reach out to her.
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