Help I'm so confused
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October 17th, 2013, 04:48 PM
Join Date: Oct 2010
First off, don't worry about the smoking and drinking. Now is the time to get healthy. Pretty much everything you will read says that what you do before finding out about your pregnancy won't matter that much. Stop smoking and drinking a and get on a prenatal vitamin and don't stress
As for your other concern, feeling upset and not excited does not make you a bad mother at all. In fact, it's pretty common to feel this way about an unplanned pregnancy. Honestly, it makes sense. Right now, all you can see is the very concrete negatives -- potentially missing out on things you've been looking forward to, the sacrifices you'll have to make, changes that will happen. You can't see and can't even begin to imagine the incredible positives of this tiny son or daughter. You can't hold your child in your arms, can't imagine the hilarious things he or she will say, the look in his or her eyes when he sees you, the sound of that first belly laugh, the face that's a strangely perfect mix of you and your boyfriend. There's no way to feel the aching joy of motherhood before you experience it. You have to have faith that it's coming, and that it will far and away any negatives you're facing now.
Also remember that you're in a great place, as the previous poster said. You have a loving and supportive fiancÚ and a wedding planned. Also at 10 weeks you're probably due in early May. There really is no reason you can't go on your Mexico trip, but with the addition of one adorable baby. We were living abroad when my first was born and took our first trip with her when she was only a week old. Your sweet baby will be over a month old, a perfect age for a trip to a gorgeous resort and though it won't be a party-til-you-drop vacation, you can still have a fabulous time and relax in the sand with a chubby cutey.
Anyway, all this to say that I know, without a doubt, that you will absolutely not regret this little child
. Best wishes and keep us posted!
Brooke, happy mama to one girl (9), and four boys (7, 5, 3, and 2) and a surprise post-vasectomy miracle baby born February 7.
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