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October 31st, 2013, 11:08 AM
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Don't push her. You made contact to let her know you want to talk when she's ready. Leave it at that. If you call, don't mention the baby or ttc. Pushing her might send her further away and might cause trouble between her and your son (I've def seen it happen).

Offer to your son, to buy a Christmas ornament for the babies they've lost. Leave the decision up to them however. You can certainly buy an angel for your own tree though.. I wish my mom would.

She may feel that she's a failure and letting everyone down. Seriously the feelings of inadequacy that we deal with truly suck and unless you've had a couple of miscarriages you just don't get it. I say this because I have very close friends who've had stillbirths... and you know what? My 14 miscarriages don't give me any experience at all as to what they are feeling. I have a friend, every time she comforts me tells me she's sorry.. and that she cannot imagine how i'm feeling.

Lash (the writer of the blog posts Jen shared) wrote a lot of REALLY thought provoking articles after her daughter's stillbirth last year. I haven't checked out the links Jen posted but I hope one of them is the circles of grief.
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