how to convince a nervous nelly to wait it out
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December 15th, 2013, 07:31 PM
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Did they rule a cause for the bleeding? It sounds like an abruption, which is unlikely to reoccur unless you have a certain set of risk factors (high blood pressure, a clotting disorder, a short cord). If they didn't rule a cause, I guess it's harder to be "sure" it won't happen again.
As for your husband, I think letting him know that you are not putting you or baby at risk being home during an uncomplicated labor. Your labor last time wasn't uncomplicated. It was not only premature, but also eventful. So you could reassure him that you wouldn't risk a problem laboring at home. But if your water breaks or contractions start and everything is going steady, there is no proven science that you need to be in a hospital. That you are not only more comfortable at home, but your risk for hospital-created complications are lower (them ruling on a clock, claiming to need constant monitoring, IVs, AROM).
Has he watched "the business of being born"? He might think it doesn't apply to you guys, since the last birth. But really, all births are very different and just because one had some issues, doesn't mean another wont be smooth sailing. It's a common problem, really, with our medical system...one birth needs an intervention (and they do have their place) and then assuming all following need the same one (c-section, induction, constant monitoring). Each baby needs a clean slate because unless it's something unchanging (mama has a heart-shaped pelvis, mom had a stillbirth and needs an induction for mental health reasons, etc), everything can be different from one kid to the next.
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