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December 17th, 2013, 11:54 AM
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Location: Minnesota
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lucky kids have 1 mother and 1 father actively in their lives.

blessed kids have more. jsut because he's back in the picture doesn't mean your husband can't be a father figure as well. make it known to dad that he can't just pop in and out when it's convinient for him. obviously times will arise when the regular visitation isn't going to work, and that's ok. but he should make some sort of effort. Skype. phone calls. anything is better than nothing.

let him know that if he doesn't want to make an effort on a regular basis, you have no problem going back to the family unit you had before. sometimes i feel like this bio fathers take a little more advantage than they should. you know, you give an inch and they take a mile? make your position VERY clear and put it all back on his lap; 'do you want to be apart of her life or not'. if he's turned over a new leaf (which it sounds like maybe he has), then he should straighten right up, knowing that you aren't joking around.

good luck! xx
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