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January 12th, 2005, 07:11 PM
scared24 scared24 is offline
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Thanks for the help. I know that I have a long road ahead of me, but there are tons of people who are in much worse situations. I have considered abortion and adoption. I know that it's selfish of me but I just don't think I could give my baby up after I carry it for 9 months. On the other hand, I don't think I could abort the fetus at this point I've read all kinds of books and articles and I feel like I'm a little too far along to make that an option.

My parents were not real happy with me, whose parents are extremely happy initially when they hear of this kind of situation. I'm an only child, they certainly hoped their first grandchild would come around in a different way! However, everyone on my side of the family has made concessions and is working toward making this baby a loving home.

BF and his family on the other hand are totally different. They treat BF like he is 10 years old and say that he deserves it because only someone that young and ignorant would put themselves in this situation. They act like their happy one day and not the next. I just can't deal with the inconsistencies. I can't understand why I am more mature than two people who are well into their 50's. It boggles my mind.

BF just wants to day dream and talk about all the fun things that he'll get to do with the baby. Don't get me wrong, I think those thoughts too, and I love to daydream about trips, teaching baby new things, and the nursery, all that "la la" kind of stuff that you fantasize about. I, unlike him, am able to realize that daydreams and love WILL NOT feed and clothe this baby. He's not worried, he thinks we'll get plenty of gifts at the shower. That's greedy and ridiculous of us to rely on that for all our baby needs.

But like I said earlier, he gets sooo mad at me when I say things like that to him. I want to save money and make plans and buy things a little along, so that the stuff from other people will be "an added bonus". He feels no need to make plans until after the baby is here. I'm really glad that he's excited, but I'm not sure if I can deal with his satisfied sense of mediocrity, and his parents inconsistencies.
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