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BabyG410 December 13th, 2009 05:21 PM

Aborting because of gender
 
I am totally disgusted by the idea that someone would abort a child because of gender. And I don't care what country you live in! But this discussion is mostly meant for our culture where we can have as many kids as we like. This was brought to my attention on another website. A lady was pregnant with her first child. She was having a girl. She wanted a boy, she was disappointed with the girl so she was already thinking ahead to her next pregnancy! To me that says she didn't give a **** about the baby girl shes carrying. Anyhow she said in future pregnancy she would use the intelligender (pee in a cup/ color changes tells you gender) tests and if it determined a girl she would abort til she had a boy!!!

I find this completely outlandish. And disgusting. And very immature! There are many people out there who would love to have a child and can't conceive... or people who want a girl but have boys... and still love them little boys! lol Every child is a blessing no matter it's gender. I understand a mom who has 2 or more kids already of the same gender being a little disappointed about not getting the opposite... but not to the point of aborting!

What do you all think?

~Kris~ December 13th, 2009 05:56 PM

Re: Aborting because of gender
 
:o
:mad:
:cry:

WineKeepsMeSane December 13th, 2009 06:35 PM

Re: Aborting because of gender
 
I know of hospitals and doctors that now have a policy to not reveal gender for this very reason.

And is Intelligender even consistently accurate :confused:

BabyG410 December 13th, 2009 06:47 PM

Re: Aborting because of gender
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by amegra (Post 18296911)
I know of hospitals and doctors that now have a policy to not reveal gender for this very reason.

And is Intelligender even consistently accurate :confused:

From what I've read it's mostly for entertainment purposes. Because there is nothing in urine that would predict gender. If you do a google search on it theres a lot of debate. I read a story of a mother who took the test 3 times and got 2 boy results and a girl result. I believe the baby ended up being a girl. Of course it has to be one or the other... I wanted to do it "for fun" but the test is 30 bucks and I can think of more important things to do with that money!

HippieLove December 13th, 2009 08:24 PM

Re: Aborting because of gender
 
Omg :o Okay first the intelligender is NOT accurate at all. Out of something like 30-40 women who did it in my playroom when we were pregnant 3 yes THREE were correct. That means 37-27 were WRONG. Imagine if all those 27 women aborted their pregnancys :mad:

People who abort due to gender make me sick and they do not deserve any children.

.Froggy. December 13th, 2009 08:43 PM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by ★mamaof3lilrockstars★ (Post 18298024)
People who abort due to gender make me sick and they do not deserve any children.

:ditto:

BabyG410 December 13th, 2009 09:44 PM

Re: Aborting because of gender
 
If a woman aborts a child due to gender... I hope they have trouble conceiving after wards and can't get pregnant again! It would serve them right... It would be like god smacking them! lol "Take what you get or you don't get any"

HippieLove December 13th, 2009 09:45 PM

Re: Aborting because of gender
 
I agree... A child is a blessing no matter what gender.

melkissa2004 December 13th, 2009 10:32 PM

Re: Aborting because of gender
 
I think it's SICK.

(.Y.)mom2dd(.Y.) December 13th, 2009 11:36 PM

Re: Aborting because of gender
 
Just to fuel your anger...

Quote:

According to data analysis, Surrey is just one part of the country that exhibits a significant deviation in the standard boy-girl ratio. Further evidence, including interviews with doctors and clinic workers, suggests a plausible reason: sex-selection abortions. Canadians are deliberately terminating pregnancies where a girl is expected, in hopes of having boys.

It's a practice that's common in certain countries and cultures, but it's never been reported on here. In China, the one-child policy in place since 1979 has highlighted the cultural sexism there, as millions of parents are careful to ensure that their one permitted child is male. The result: In China, there are now an estimated 80 women for every 100 men.
Canada's missing daughters
There is tons more information in this article that is worth reading.. Awful, isn't it?

IAmMomMomIAm December 14th, 2009 07:12 AM

Re: Aborting because of gender
 
I can't even make myself respond. :(

AMDG December 14th, 2009 08:51 AM

Re: Aborting because of gender
 
Well, I agree with everybody else - it is horrible. I must say though, it does not surprise me in the least. We live a world where human life is not valued. People have abortions all the time if their child is not "perfect" and these women just see a baby boy as being better or more valuable than a baby girl. We also live in a society where there is pressure to only have one or two children and so it follows that people would not want to "waste" their one and only child on a baby who would not be "perfect" in their eyes. Seriously - does that really surprise any of you? It is just as horrifying to me a woman would abort a baby with down syndrome.

WineKeepsMeSane December 14th, 2009 10:11 AM

Re: Aborting because of gender
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by ★mamaof3lilrockstars★ (Post 18298024)
Omg :o Okay first the intelligender is NOT accurate at all. Out of something like 30-40 women who did it in my playroom when we were pregnant 3 yes THREE were correct. That means 37-27 were WRONG. Imagine if all those 27 women aborted their pregnancys :mad:

People who abort due to gender make me sick and they do not deserve any children.

That's what I thought, I just didn't want to proclaim it completely inaccurate without knowing for sure, and didn't want to go searching last night.

To the OP - tell her that if she really doesn't want a girl to give the child to a couple who is desperate for ANY child and will give the little girl the attention and love she deserves.

BabyG410 December 14th, 2009 11:49 AM

Re: Aborting because of gender
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by amegra (Post 18303558)
That's what I thought, I just didn't want to proclaim it completely inaccurate without knowing for sure, and didn't want to go searching last night.

To the OP - tell her that if she really doesn't want a girl to give the child to a couple who is desperate for ANY child and will give the little girl the attention and love she deserves.

I would, but she deleted her post shortly after the bad comments started flowing in, and I think she got run off. :rolleyes:

**Badfish** December 14th, 2009 12:43 PM

Re: Aborting because of gender
 
That is craziness.

aussiemummy December 14th, 2009 03:14 PM

Re: Aborting because of gender
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by ShellaMarie (Post 18298229)
:ditto:

DITTO! Be grateful with what you have. A child is a blessing regardless of the gender.

BabyG410 December 14th, 2009 03:25 PM

Re: Aborting because of gender
 
Glad this is no real debate. :)

frgsonmysox December 15th, 2009 09:42 AM

Re: Aborting because of gender
 
wow... I'm VERY pro-choice but this just saddens me.

lilflower December 15th, 2009 10:18 AM

Re: Aborting because of gender
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by AMDG (Post 18302412)
Well, I agree with everybody else - it is horrible. I must say though, it does not surprise me in the least. We live a world where human life is not valued. People have abortions all the time if their child is not "perfect" and these women just see a baby boy as being better or more valuable than a baby girl. We also live in a society where there is pressure to only have one or two children and so it follows that people would not want to "waste" their one and only child on a baby who would not be "perfect" in their eyes. Seriously - does that really surprise any of you? It is just as horrifying to me a woman would abort a baby with down syndrome.

That breaks my heart. My little sister has Downs. I can't imagine her not being here just because of her genetic make-up. And for it to actually be ONLY gender oriented in the OP makes me SICK. Honestly, truthfully, SICK.

BabyG410 December 15th, 2009 06:15 PM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by lilflower (Post 18317595)
That breaks my heart. My little sister has Downs. I can't imagine her not being here just because of her genetic make-up. And for it to actually be ONLY gender oriented in the OP makes me SICK. Honestly, truthfully, SICK.

I haven't personally known anyone with downs. Are there different levels of it? What is the quality of life like, and the level of understanding?


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