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septbaby03 July 7th, 2006 07:58 PM

I was always a bad child I got into alot of fights with my parents and siblings so I met a bad boy that smoked drinked and stayed out all night we dated for 2yrs at that time I know I was really stupid he was very abusive mentally and physically I was only 18 when we met. One day I noticed my period was missing so we went and got a test and I took it and it was + I was scared half to death because of the situation I was in I dont believe in abortion so I knew that was out of the question when he found out I was in fact pregnant he demanded me not to tell anyone about my pregnancy so I stayed quiet even when I was growing my friends didnt say anything until one day I was throwing up and crying at that time I was 31 weeks pregnant and havent gone to the dr when my friends found out I was pregnant they demanded that I tell my boyfriend that I needed to get to the dr which he wouldnt take me to my friend took me they told me I had alot of protein in my urine and I did the 24 hour test. The same day my friend mentioned adoption I was open to it because I knew I couldnt bring a child into the way I was living we went to a place called Catholic Charities and met with a WONDERFUL woman who gave me some profiles to look at I looked at 1 and I knew I found the right couple they had a misscarriage of triplets 3yrs before this and they just looked like a really loving couple who deserve to be parents we agreed to meet up the next week. 2 days later I went back to the dr and she said nothing has has changed that I was being admitted to the hospital because of pre-eclampsia I was 32 weeks right at that time I was scared out of my mind! I welcomed him into the world that night at 10:25pm via emergency c-section he was only 3lbs 12 oz he was sooooooo tiny I got to hold him the next day since I had the c-section and he was in the NICU. 2 days later the adoption agency came in and talked to me about signing the papers it was the hardest thing in the world but I knew I couldnt do it the couple were down in the hospital lobby waiting to meet us at this time about 10 minutes after I met the couple I knew they were the ones ( I knew from seeing there profile but this brought more closure to me) and I signed the papers right away I got to hand him over into HER arms and say here is your son. the next day I spent about 5 hours in the NICU saying good bye to him(they let me see him even though I signed the papers). It was the hardest thing in the world but I know he is in a loving caring home that he is being taken care of not like I could have. Right now I have a semi open adoption where I get pictures and letters every year. Well thats my story I'm very sorry about the paragraphs i'm not really good at this but i'm getting better.

beck12 July 9th, 2006 02:31 AM

I think what you did shows a lot of compassion & courage. I hope that you are very proud of yourself for deciding to give him more opportunities in this life. I hope too that you have left that abusive situation & have been able to move forward in your life. Thank you so much for choosing to share your story here & I wish you all the best!

fallsbaby July 9th, 2006 09:58 AM

I think you are amazing and a very stong and courageous woman. You gave a family the most wonderful gift in the world. I pray some day I will be lucky enough to find a bmom like you. I wish you much happiness in the world, thanks for sharing your story.

septbaby03 July 9th, 2006 02:09 PM

I have left that idiot right after I got out of the hospital he was gone i'm now with a wonderful guy we have been married 3 yrs and we have a 2 1/2 yr old

fallsbaby July 9th, 2006 02:48 PM

I am so glad that you are happy, what a wonderful gift you gave someone, and in return you now have a wonderful family as well!

beck12 July 9th, 2006 06:10 PM

I am so glad everything seems to have worked out so well for you! It really is awesome!

Jessika July 18th, 2006 09:52 AM

Hi. My name is Jess and I have a 15 month old daughter who I placed into an open adoption at birth.

Kiwi*Mummie*of*4 August 8th, 2006 07:24 PM

What a wonderful gift you gave to someone else. I am so glad you are happy and with someone who truly cares for you.

JulieP September 4th, 2006 03:14 PM

I'm so proud of you for the decision you made. I'm also a birthmom and know it takes alot of courage and love to make that choice. (((HUGS))) to you. There's a great Birthmom site if you're interested. Lots of support and love from ladies who have been there and experienced all we've gone thru.

StephLS September 11th, 2006 09:29 AM

As someone who was adopted a week after I was born, I thank you for your selflessness. I pray that the son you gave up is as blessed as I have been with wonderful adoptive parents.

Thanks for sharing your story!


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