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Rachel August 24th, 2010 09:41 AM

How do you do holidays?
 
Do you switch off every year or do you have some other arrangement? How about birthdays?

Wisey August 24th, 2010 09:52 AM

Re: How do you do holidays?
 
My ex and I have such a good relationship. We switch off who has her on x-mas eve so she wakes up every other year at a different house. The rest of the holidays we split the day down the middle depending on who is suppose to have her that day.

K.A.T August 24th, 2010 10:58 AM

Re: How do you do holidays?
 
According to the court order, we're supposed to switch off every year. However, her bio mom refuses to follow the order. She has told us "She will never spend Xmas with you." Makes me want to knock the ever living ____ out of her.

Arachne August 24th, 2010 11:58 AM

Re: How do you do holidays?
 
Certain holidays we're supposed to switch off for... then we get the kids for 1/2 of winter break, and she gets them for the other 1/2, and I think which half we have, switches off also. However, since we're so far away, usually only the big time spans happen. Like they get a certain amount of time with their mother in the summer, but it didn't happen this year. We couldn't afford to fly to out there, she wouldn't fly here, and she wanted us to put the kids on an airplane BY THEMSELVES. One of them is 3 and 1/2, and my husband said no way in hell. She comes here to see them, or she doesn't see them.

However, she has no job, or so she says, and she has to split 1/2 the travel costs, and if she can't do that, how is she going to afford to care for them while they're with her? So I don't know how Christmas is going to go this year. She can come out here for it, but she has to stay in a hotel. She isn't staying in my house.

Although, it says in the paperwork that travel costs MUST be split 50/50, and once the kids are in your care, the expense is all on you. So, does this mean that she has to pay for half of my husband's plane ticket and half of mine, when we fly there? Does this mean we have to pay for half of her plane ticket when she flies here?

shadowraven August 24th, 2010 03:06 PM

Re: How do you do holidays?
 
Acording to the court order we're supposed to switch off to but mainly my son is with me most holidays because his dad really don't care.He didn't even bother seeing or calling him on his birthday.

Rachel August 24th, 2010 03:40 PM

Re: How do you do holidays?
 
According to the court order, we're supposed to split the holidays and she's to have them on Mother's Day and he's to have them on Father's Day. She had them for about an hour on Mother's Day and we ended up spending most of the day in the car. :rollseyes:

K.A.T August 24th, 2010 04:59 PM

Re: How do you do holidays?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Fright (Post 21295461)
Certain holidays we're supposed to switch off for... then we get the kids for 1/2 of winter break, and she gets them for the other 1/2, and I think which half we have, switches off also. However, since we're so far away, usually only the big time spans happen. Like they get a certain amount of time with their mother in the summer, but it didn't happen this year. We couldn't afford to fly to out there, she wouldn't fly here, and she wanted us to put the kids on an airplane BY THEMSELVES. One of them is 3 and 1/2, and my husband said no way in hell. She comes here to see them, or she doesn't see them.

However, she has no job, or so she says, and she has to split 1/2 the travel costs, and if she can't do that, how is she going to afford to care for them while they're with her? So I don't know how Christmas is going to go this year. She can come out here for it, but she has to stay in a hotel. She isn't staying in my house.

Although, it says in the paperwork that travel costs MUST be split 50/50, and once the kids are in your care, the expense is all on you. So, does this mean that she has to pay for half of my husband's plane ticket and half of mine, when we fly there? Does this mean we have to pay for half of her plane ticket when she flies here?

I don't think so, I would take that to mean that you must split the travel cost for the children alone. Not each other.

Arachne August 24th, 2010 06:30 PM

Re: How do you do holidays?
 
I would think so also, but it doesn't explicitly state. And if you don't explicitly state with husband's ex... :rollseyes:

Guess we'll figure it we all go.


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