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mom2more November 20th, 2012 10:11 AM

How do you handle holiday visitation?
 
With my step kids we have almost always had them on holidays. Their bm almost never called or asked to see them on holidays. Plus she moves a lot so most times she isn't even living in our state and she can barely afford her own living expenses, so there is no chance of her buying plane tickets for the kids.

With my ds we have a court order, but my ex and I have not really followed it in years. I took him to court in the beginning to get child support and to make him take our son EOW. He would try pulling the "I have to work weekends" thing and want to take him for a few hours on weekend days and return him to me so I couldn't go out and he could. Eventually we started to get along and have just worked together so our son can enjoy his holidays.

I have been lucky because he always lets me have Christmas morning and Easter morning. Then depending on what our families plans are we split the rest of the day. And usually either Thanksgiving or 4th of July (some years both) he takes our son a few hours away to stay with some of his family for a few days so I miss those. The rest of the holidays we just see who has what going on and then determine what to do.

.Katie. November 20th, 2012 10:32 AM

Re: How do you handle holiday visitation?
 
Chloe leaves every Christmas vacation and is gone the entire time. Julie and Kaylee's dad alternates with us each year and this year he will have them for Christmas eve and morning, and then we will get them at noon on Christmas morning.

w292737 November 20th, 2012 11:59 AM

Re: How do you handle holiday visitation?
 
my kids are with me 100% of the time

plan4fate November 20th, 2012 12:37 PM

Re: How do you handle holiday visitation?
 
We split the holidays when applicable. DH is always gone for Easter, working out of State. He cannot look after Reme while he's working, so visitation just is not possible (he works 12 hrs a day, and lives in a hotel most of the time). So L always gets Easter.

We split Thanksgiving most years, this year he's going to His Nan and Paps because I have to work at midnight on Thanksgiving day, and this way we can all get our shopping done with out playing tag team in toys r us like last year. We will get him Friday afternoon after I've had a nap (or DH will get him WHILE I nap).

We also split Christmas. L gets him Eve and Morning. We get him around 2pm after he's eaten.

We split new years eve last year, we had him until Supper Time, then he ran in the new year with his Mom. I have no idea what will happen this year, we play it by ear.


DH is entitled to have Reme every other holiday every other year, but in reality, we live 5 miles from L's house, and it's not worth the fighting. If things ever get patchy, he'll start enforcing the order.. but at the moment.. this way works best for Reme.. and that's who is important.

Rachel November 20th, 2012 06:19 PM

Re: How do you handle holiday visitation?
 
Our Order givers her 1/2 of the major holidays. We usually allow her to pick them up in the afternoon.


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