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Stepmom2Be January 2nd, 2013 08:47 PM

NO idea how to handle this one...
 
O has always had a bit of a video game obsession ever since we introduced him to my old N64. He loves to play James Bond. For Christmas, he got a new James Bond Wii game, and he also got a Nintendo DS. We KNEW it was going to be bad until he got used to them. We KNEW that since he got them and then left for 5 days, he'd want them as soon as he walked in the door.

He's done a pretty good job bouncing back and forth between all his presents. But last night we were all building his K'Nex roller coaster. Granted, the thing was a ***** to build. And yeah we had to do a lot of the work. But at one point he basically asked us to move so he could play James Bond.

And then today. He woke up around 10. Of course played video games. I am a bit under the weather so I got up around noon. Eric had to leave for work at 2. At around 2:30, I showered. When I got out of the shower, I had O shower. Around 5pm I go to do his laundry. And I notice his PJ pants AND his underwear are SOAKED. I call Eric and ask him how to approach it.

I asked O, "I have a question, and don't be embarrassed, I just need the truth okay? I noticed your PJ pants were wet when I did your laundry. Did they get wet when you got out of the shower or did you not make it to the bathroom in time."

He says, "Oh..... this morning I didn't make it to the bathroom in time."

Like.. I have NO idea when this happened. I asked him where he was and he said standing in front of the Wii. I can't punish the kid for peeing. But he is 8 years old. He should know to PAUSE the game to go to the bathroom. Has his obsession become too much? He already knows when he goes back to school Monday he will be back to a one hour limit a day, and only once his homework is done. But 2 days ago we saw him dancing while playing and had to tell him to STOP playing and go pee.

How the heck do I handle this one?!

plan4fate January 2nd, 2013 09:21 PM

Re: NO idea how to handle this one...
 
Accidents happen. But, if the game is so important that he won't stop and go when he needs to, you may need to get firm. Reme knows if he has accidents during the day, he loses what ever he was playing with when he has the accident.

Reme doesn't play with out one of us awake so that's not an issue. During the day every couple of hours, I send him to pee. We pause the game, he goes, and then he can come back. If I am the one playing, I pause it, I pee, he pees and then I play again. We don't give him the option not to go. Sometimes he only gets a few dribbles, other times I wonder if he's peeing out his body weight, I call him Reme the Camel on a regular basis.

I'd go tough on it right away, we had to. We haven't had a daytime accident that was more than a few dribbles in almost a year.


Nighttime... totally different story:(

Wisey January 3rd, 2013 03:38 AM

Maybe set a timer so he knows he has to pause the game and at least try to go to the bathroom.

K.A.T January 3rd, 2013 05:37 AM

We had this issue with Kev. The first two times we let it go, but then it continued. So we did punish him from the video games until he learned yo pay attention to his body
Kev has recently been diagnosed adhd, and one thing I didn't know before about this condition is the childs ability to hyper focus on things. Now, that we know about his adhd it all makes sense. I wouldn't let accidents like slide if they continue to occur. The time limit you place on him might have to be enforced regardless of school or vacation. Also, it could help if he only played with adult supervision so you guys can pick up on the bathroom ques.

Just my two cents.

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Rachel January 3rd, 2013 06:47 AM

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Clayton used to do this when he was about 7 or 8 too. He would get so wrapped up in what he was doing, he didn't make it the bathroom in time. Or the bathroom break was too much of an interruption for him. He'd sit there and do the pee pee dance instead of just getting up and going to the bathroom. We would send him to the bathroom the minute we saw the wiggle and we started to limit his video game time to 1 hour on 2 hours off or something like that. It got really old because he'd just either not change his clothes and smell like pee or put his dirty peed on clothes in the laundry bin and risk getting every thing mildew-y because he was just being distracted or lazy.

He did grow out of it, but it wasn't without much frustration! Good luck!

mom2more January 3rd, 2013 07:10 AM

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I would just tell him that he needs to stop the game when he needs to use the bathroom. And I would warn him that if he pees his pants again because he doesn't want to stop playing video games then you will take away the video games.

w292737 January 3rd, 2013 08:33 AM

Re: NO idea how to handle this one...
 
I think it's still pretty typical in kids his age to get caught up in the fun and excitment (of anything) and not want to miss out and have accidents.

I'd just try and help him remember to go. ask him to pause the game and run in and go quick.

Ember Rose January 3rd, 2013 11:23 AM

Re: NO idea how to handle this one...
 
M doesn't play without one of us being up because he can't manage his time appropriately on his own. Sounds like Owen is at the same place.

Stepmom2Be January 3rd, 2013 11:30 AM

Re: NO idea how to handle this one...
 
He's usually fine. But with this new game, it's a bit ridiculous!

His dad is working today, and when he gets back tomorrow morning, it's going to be family time not video game time.

I told him last night, "If you get up before me and play video games make sure you take bathroom breaks. The game does have a pause button for a reason dude." and he giggled and said Okay.

I think Eric will tell him if it happens again he's going to lose the game. I mean he's like 15 feet from the bathroom.

He has a problem with telling us things at the very last second too though. He waits until we are at the back corner of the grocery store to tell us he has to go to the bathroom. And usually, by the time he even brings it up, he has to go super bad and can't hold it. he does the same thing with drinks. We'll walk out the door after being home all day and get in the car and he'll say, "I'm so thirsty!" And we've gotten to the point where we now tell him, well you're not going to die, you're gonna have to wait. You've had ALL day to get yourself a drink.

Ember Rose January 3rd, 2013 11:36 AM

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With the drink thing he might just want a drink from a store. A canteen in my purse for M fixed that.

Has he been checked out for ADD or ADHD?

stucklikeglue January 3rd, 2013 12:24 PM

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my 5 year old does it. He gets so caught up that he forgets he has to go until it's almost coming outta him. Same with the drink. That's even after I say hey you want to bring a drink with you and he tells me no and then 5 min later he's so thirsty.

w292737 January 3rd, 2013 12:24 PM

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It's the age, My C is 8 and she does the same thing. I just take it upon myself, with stores, to ask as soon as we get to one if she needs to go, and she'll say yes or no, and we go anyhow, just to be safe.

plan4fate January 3rd, 2013 12:57 PM

Re: NO idea how to handle this one...
 
We get the drinks thing here too. He's starting to catch on now that he's NOT getting a drink unless it comes from a water fountain.. and he doesn't really like water. If there is no water fountain, DH will buy water.

Lately I've been watching him slip capri suns into his coat pocket. Which is great.. except he forgets to take them out and then his seat belt doesn't fit right *oi*.

Stepmom2Be January 3rd, 2013 01:48 PM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Ember Rose (Post 26931544)
With the drink thing he might just want a drink from a store. A canteen in my purse for M fixed that.

Has he been checked out for ADD or ADHD?

His mom insists he has it, yet when we called her out on it, she claims she never said he had it. It's all typical stuff my brother and I did when we were young. I ALWAYS had to pee in grocery stores. We've been pretty good about asking right when we get there, or before we leave. But sometimes, we do just say hey get your shoes on lets go. And he does that and we leave and there isnt time for him to go to the bathroom real quick.

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Originally Posted by plan4fate (Post 26931919)
We get the drinks thing here too. He's starting to catch on now that he's NOT getting a drink unless it comes from a water fountain.. and he doesn't really like water. If there is no water fountain, DH will buy water.

Lately I've been watching him slip capri suns into his coat pocket. Which is great.. except he forgets to take them out and then his seat belt doesn't fit right *oi*.

I dunno if you remember from a while ago, but O is also a drink chugger. We seem to have stopped that though. If he downs his entire drink as soon as we sit down for dinner, he knows he can't get a refill until we're done.

Wisey January 3rd, 2013 03:03 PM

I can't comment on the drink thing I am always thirsty while driving and about 40% of the time I am so busy getting other things together I forget to grab a drink!!

plan4fate January 4th, 2013 02:25 PM

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DH and Reme have oral and food sensory disorders. They consume a large amount of liquid to keep from choking. But Reme is also a chugger, and it's taken a lot of talking to get him to slow down. We've solved it pretty well, that if he chugs his drink (usually juice) he can only have water for the rest of his meal. This kid really hates water.

I'm ok with him taking this Capri suns in the car. just need to work on him taking them OUT of his pocket before he puts on his seat belt. lol.

Ember Rose January 5th, 2013 10:28 AM

Re: NO idea how to handle this one...
 
It seems like he just has a specific issue with focus that warrants a bit of extra attention. Every kid can't handle the same responsibilities at the same age. He just seems to need some extra boundaries and guidance which is fine.


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