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plan4fate January 6th, 2013 01:17 AM

This weekend should be interesting....
 
I was gathering up dishes tonight, and noticed Reme had stashed his two drinking cups (the lidded type with straws that are popular) in a corner. Well Reme hasn't been here in a week. *crap*

They're moldy. Well, was the last straw.

This weekend is "Reme gets to learn how to do chores" weekend. DH's fully on board, as we had been discussing it. Now we just need to figure out a way to make it fun, so he doesn't flip his wig.


Is 7 too young to start paying him to do chores? Since he's not here all the time I was thinking a quarter a meal for taking care of his dishes (2 meals a day), a quarter to make his bed... does this sound crazy? Keep in mind Reme's got some special needs including poor fine motor skills. Doing this stuff is a challenge for him, but I think the time has come where he's got to learn. He doesn't do anything at home, and he's starting to treat DH and I like maids, and we notice that, even at his young age, he talks down on women. He's told us several times he's going to get a wife so she can do his laundry (despite the fact he sees DH do laundry frequently). Since we can't control what he does at home, he will just have to do things here with us.

Keakie January 6th, 2013 06:03 AM

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I don't think it's too young. :hug: My 6 yo dsd has been helping empty the dishwasher for over a year, and all of them including my almost-4 yo dss know that they need to throw away their napkins and put their plates and forks in the dishwasher. The littlest sometimes needs help, but that's about it. We don't bother with beds because with so many kids, they inevitably end up playing on them and they wouldn't stay nicely made anyway (and I'd rather have them goofing around in their bedrooms than playing on screens), and honestly dh and I don't make our bed most days :giggle:, so I'm not sure what age that becomes reasonably easy. I think it's worth a try though.

mom2more January 6th, 2013 06:41 AM

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I do not think 7 is too young to help out around the house. Since he is not used to doing any chores he will probably get upset, but don't let him win. No reason why a 7 year old can not help out around the house. And honestly I think it would do him a disservice to let him grow up having no household responsibility!

As for payment, we don't pay the kids for chores around here. We tell them all that we all make the mess so we all should pitch in to clean it up. Its "our" house and we should all want it clean.

Keakie January 6th, 2013 07:04 AM

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Yeah, we don't pay either, because no one pays us to clean up after ourselves. :giggle: But I don't think it's a bad idea to offer him an incentive.

I wanted to add that we also have them clean up their own toys, including the littlest (he occasionally needs help, but I encourage him to do it on his own a lot more often). He'll complain about it the whole time (and I can't tell you how much it makes me giggle to watch him picking up his blocks, saying, "Uggghhh, I HATE cleaning. Why do I have to do EVERYTHING?!") and he usually needs some level of supervision, but it gets done.

Wisey January 6th, 2013 08:53 AM

Never to young to help out!!

Sophia is in charge of her room, she has to take care of her dishes, she is in charge of keeping the sink clean in her bathroom.

If she goes the whole week doing it with no reminders I will give her the change in the bottom of my purse. She usually splits the money in half and puts half in her bank and half in the Christmas jar. The Christmas jar we cash in and give to a needy family around the holidays.

stresswife January 6th, 2013 10:36 AM

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never too young! I make my stepkids help around, mostly just picking up after themselves, but they don't do that at their moms so it's a battle sometimes..
I will start giving Audrey little "chores" this summer, she'll be 2.

plan4fate January 6th, 2013 12:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Keakie (Post 26940662)
Yeah, we don't pay either, because no one pays us to clean up after ourselves. :giggle: But I don't think it's a bad idea to offer him an incentive.

I wanted to add that we also have them clean up their own toys, including the littlest (he occasionally needs help, but I encourage him to do it on his own a lot more often). He'll complain about it the whole time (and I can't tell you how much it makes me giggle to watch him picking up his blocks, saying, "Uggghhh, I HATE cleaning. Why do I have to do EVERYTHING?!") and he usually needs some level of supervision, but it gets done.

Oh word... this is soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo Reme. He's also a "I'm going to pick up the lego's one.single.piece.at.a.time... kid. We had to buy him a mini dustpan to have it take a fraction of the time. And even then at first he tried to start putting them on the pan one at a time.


We talked about it last night, and I'm going to go buy some stickers. Each chore completed, with effort, with minimal whining earns him a sticker. Each sticker is worth something. Once he accumulates enough stickers, we will give him real money. (that way we aren't wasting our much coveted laundry quarters). If he doesn't complete the task, with enough effort, with 2 tries, we take away a quarter he has to give US a sticker (quarter). Some of this, like his bed, he will need help with. But if he's not putting out effort he not only doesn't earn a quarter, but he loses one.

DH said we should offer him extra incentives.. like if he rinses someone elses dish as well as his own (dishwasher is going to have to wait. we know he can get the plate to the counter, then drag over the stool, get it into the sink, and use the brush to wash it off... but I don't think his coordination and hand strength would let him get it into the dishwasher with out dropping it). he can earn extra stickers. since other things, like brushing his teeth are a chore (oral sensory disorder) we're going to add that one to the list too. He'd live in the tub, so I'm not going to give him quarters to bathe, he'd start demanding 20baths a day. lol.


also offering an incentive for reading. For every "age appropriate" book he and his dad read, I'll give him a quarter up to $1 a day. This one may change depending on what his IEP meeting that DH is going to says on Tuesday.

stucklikeglue January 6th, 2013 02:27 PM

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We had chores for the kids, didnt work out to well. I was stressed out by having to go after them and clean up what they didn't and then when dad finally helped it was still pulling teeth with them. It just became easier to do it myself. and we were paying them 5 a week. The 2nd oldest decided that bc if she doesnt do it right the first time and that meant that they lost their 5 dollars, that she just wasnt going to do it. Now we just have 2 sk here during the week and have them on monday's clean their bathroom, wednesdays sweep and mop the house, and fridays they are to bring me their laundry. no money.

Keakie January 6th, 2013 02:44 PM

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Originally Posted by plan4fate (Post 26941443)
Oh word... this is soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo Reme. He's also a "I'm going to pick up the lego's one.single.piece.at.a.time... kid. We had to buy him a mini dustpan to have it take a fraction of the time. And even then at first he tried to start putting them on the pan one at a time.

:giggle: That's too funny. S actually picks them up somewhat quickly (for his age and the fact that he has tiny hands) but he gripes and moans and complains the ENTIRE time. :lol: At his age, I just care that he does it, so I mostly ignore the whining or respond with, "I'm sorry that you hate it." or "I know, buddy. It stinks when we have to do things that aren't fun, doesn't it?" or "You're cleaning up the toys because it was you who was playing with them." or if it's late, or the mess is a little huge, "I will help you with your blocks if you finish picking up the trains and the tracks." The biggest thing with him is that if no one supervises him, he'll sometimes get distracted and just start playing with the toys instead of putting them back into the bins.

It sounds like you guys have a pretty good system worked out. I hope that it helps!

ShesaDreamer January 6th, 2013 02:52 PM

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I just went today to Dollar tree and in the teacher section they have charts for classrooms and stuff I got a set for the boys it has Monday-Friday because we just give them their 2 normal chores on the weekends and weekdays they will have anywhere from 3-5 depending on what needs done around the house. But they are fairly easy Take out the trash, unload the dishwasher, feed the dogs, empty the dryer. Things that don't take forever to do. And if they can do them right for a certain amount of time they get a reward, $10 videogame, lunch out, something like that.

Ember Rose January 6th, 2013 03:13 PM

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What you have sounds good. I like the idea of paying him because he teaches him the value of money, both in getting it and having it. If you just give him money he learns how to manage it but there's a disconnect between having to work for money and getting it.

plan4fate January 6th, 2013 03:34 PM

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yeah,and he's a money hungry little beast too. I think if I worked out how many stickers bought him a skylander, he'd be asking mom for chores too. LOL.

K.A.T January 7th, 2013 09:18 AM

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Good luck with the chores. I don't think it's too young. I pay for chores, but I have older kids who travel for school. With Kev, he can earn $.50 for helping with chores. Other than that, he's to keep his room clean with no money.

plan4fate January 7th, 2013 12:06 PM

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^^ we are the ones who mess up his room. He's rather picky about where things have to be. His bed is his weak spot... He trashes it every night in his sleep... so I think it's only fair now that he learns how to do it. He keeps asking for siblings, and I'm not going to be able to crawl onto his futon pregnant and keep it made.. it'd collapse. lol

Rachel January 7th, 2013 02:17 PM

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We don't pay for chores around the house either. And 7 is not too young! I hope it went well!


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