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m.and.a August 12th, 2009 09:50 AM

Discipline Resources
 
Discipline is a very important part of my every day life. Biblically based discipline, and from having had gotten to know you ladies, I know it's important to you too. I try to focus on not only correcting the behavior, but by focusing on the issue of my child's heart. The root of the word is Disciple- which doesn't mean to react to behavior as it happens. This is why I don't use timeouts, because as I watch my friends use them, I see them only being used when a child has gotten annoying and the parent doesn't want to deal with them. For me- the heart of discipline is communication.

I found this resource today, and thought I'd share it with you. It's in PDF form, to be printed and used daily (in this situation, a homeschool). Her child shares it with Daddy when he gets home.

http://lapbooksbycarisa.homestead.co...art_report.pdf

It comes from the Totschool blog.

She also suggests the following books:

Creative Correction- which I probably wouldn't use just by the title and

Parenting is Heart Work- which, just by the title, I love.

Both of them have good reviews on Christian Books.

I use Shepherding a Child's Heart. The author presents biblical spanking (not hitting your child just because your angry or irritated- he calls that child abuse) as "God's Way" to deal with children. The entire first half is about communication. I use it, and I have to tell you- it works. I suggest it to people all the time, and am used to the eye rolling and objections- even with own members of my church.

I wanted to share the PDF and ask about Christ centered parenting books you've found useful and would recommend to anyone who were trying to raise kids God's Way.

ctanis August 12th, 2009 11:35 AM

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Do you know if any of those books do not incooperate spanking w/discipline because we are a know spanking family. I have resorted to it a few times but with aggression issues with my Autistic child spanking is not a option. I just want to state that I do not judge people who use spanking its just not something that we will do. I know I need some new ideas other then time outs.

m.and.a August 12th, 2009 11:58 AM

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I don't know, but having had worked with children with aspergers and low functioning autistic adults, I can appreciate the difficulty you must have. So much we did was working with anticipating behaviors and strictly controlling every day environment. So much of discipline is communication- which is difficult with someone who has autism.

m.and.a August 12th, 2009 12:02 PM

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ETA: Have you looked at the PDF? Would that be helpful as a tactile resource for you and your child?

ctanis August 12th, 2009 12:03 PM

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Its hard but its gotten a little better. I really wonder if he truly understand some of the stuff he does. Because I can talk to him and let him know what he did was not ok but he just smiles. I need to get him into behavior therapy.

ctanis August 12th, 2009 12:19 PM

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Its hard but its gotten a little better. I really wonder if he truly understand some of the stuff he does. Because I can talk to him and let him know what he did was not ok but he just smiles. I need to get him into behavior therapy.

ctanis August 12th, 2009 12:21 PM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by m.and.a (Post 16933532)
ETA: Have you looked at the PDF? Would that be helpful as a tactile resource for you and your child?


Whats that?

Heidi77 August 13th, 2009 05:55 AM

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Thanks for this! We're having major discipline issues with Ezekiel and I will definitely check it out.

m.and.a August 13th, 2009 06:46 AM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Heidi77 (Post 16934659)
Thanks for this! We're having major discipline issues with Ezekiel and I will definitely check it out.

The first link in my post.

#5in2005 August 22nd, 2009 07:34 PM

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My number one super favorite best parenting book ever hands down for me is Grace based parenting by Tim Kimmel. I have read some of his other books and they are great too, but Grace based parenting is terrific.

*Angela* August 22nd, 2009 09:08 PM

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The book I am wanting to try is Love and Logic for young children. My friend who teaches with me and has two boys close to my boys ages has been using it at home and has tried some of it in her classroom. She has told me some of the tricks like "Energy Drain" for times when your child is misbehaving and you are having to spend extra energy in correction, redirection, talking... your child comes up with a way to replace your energy - i.e. child selected chores, appology, time out.. Your child has a voice in the discipline.


Manda I know you said you would veer away from Creative Correction but I would love to read it. I have heard Lisa talk about her parenting style on Focus on the Family and for a busy mom she had some wonderful ideas.

Busy times is when my kids push the limits, have meltdowns, act out...Those are the times that I find it hard to keep myself together and handle discipline the way I know I should.

kristianna August 23rd, 2009 01:54 AM

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Anaiah is not at this stage yet but thanks for the links I've copied them for future ref. I think I will however handle discipline like my parents did. They did spank us as children but never out of anger and only after we agreee that we did wrong, the spanking was given as a consequence. I use to cry more because I was bad.. never because the spanking hurt. I think it was effective so I hope to use their model.


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