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yes, at first our unplanned baby was a devastation more than anything, we had extreme trust issues and all sorts of problems in our relationship. my SO wanted me to terminate it and i refused, a few weeks later he admitted in his heart he knew abortion wasn't the answer and that if we even left for the abortion clinic he would have turned around and not been able to go through with it. we found out today we are having a little girl and he bawled like a baby when we saw the ultrasound. he is so excited and was telling his friends/family today this is the best thing to happen to him. sometimes, things like this just take time. it took him a good month to adjust and accept it, but once he did, he wouldnt have it any other way and couldnt possibly be more supportive.
i was the same way as you, i could NOT terminate the pregnancy. i don't care if it's one day after conception - in my eyes it IS a baby already. and like mentioned above (and this is also what i told my SO...) it took both of us to make this baby, so we both need to grow up and accept the responsibility. i understand how it feels to get pregnant when it couldn't possibly be worse timing (i am 20 years old, and not done with college, for example.) but you have to do whats best for you, he MAY resent you after and I feared the same with my SO. but you know what, in my opinion i would rather have a man resent me for doing something i know in my heart is right, than doing something i feel is wrong and resent my SELF. ya know? i don't mean to sound too brash, i just know how you feel and hope i helped some.
I know it has been a long time since you left this post...but I'm really hoping you still check it from time to time...I am in an identical situation - just found out I'm pregnant with a 3rd, about 5 weeks along...logistically and financially we should not be having another baby, and my husband is firm in his decision that we should abort, but whenever I think of actually going through with the abortion I feel sick and start to cry. Not to mention I likely have to wait another 4-6 weeks to get an abortion - I can't imagine not bonding to the baby in that amount of time!!
I would really love to hear what you decided to do and how that has worked out for your family. If you don't want to share I understand, it is a very personal decision. I hope everything worked out well for you and your family.
I am currently pregnant with no father in the picture so I am in a very different position but at just 7 weeks I had a blood clot and thought I lost it and was in the ER and already saw the heartbeat and everything. I saw the head and the body.. In my eyes, 7 weeks is still a growing life and if you don't feel comfortable killing your child, don't do it. He has two children already he loves dearly.. He will love the third.. regardless of any issues going on between you two at the moment.
Thank You so much Jaidynsmum for my awesome siggy!!