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February 8th, 2006, 10:51 AM
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I think it is a good idea to let him know that you are going to move...that way it leaves the ball in his court to decide if he is going to "man up". You don't want to be faced with tellingl your child that it was partially your fault that his dad isn't in the picture. At least give him that chance. Just one call to let him know...that's it.

Good Luck!

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February 8th, 2006, 11:04 AM
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I think it is a good idea to let him know that you are going to move...that way it leaves the ball in his court to decide if he is going to "man up". You don't want to be faced with tellingl your child that it was partially your fault that his dad isn't in the picture. At least give him that chance. Just one call to let him know...that's it.

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February 8th, 2006, 12:24 PM
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Hey girl....Wow, what a rough time you've had with him. I'm so sorry your relationship fell apart like that. But, CONGRATS on the baby! At least some good came out of it, right?

Hmmmm...advice....advice....Ah yes, just had to think for a minute to figure out what I would do in your shoes.
Well, I wouldn't call him, I wouldn't text him. You know why? Because chances are, (going by what your've said in your other post), he'll probably just erase the text, or not answer his phone. (what a coward!). But, he does have the right to know where you're going and just in case things get really ugly (which I pray it never will come down to that!), you need to do things the smart way. Cover your butt! Let him know, but send your new address in letter, and most importantly via registered mail. This way, you know it's going to get to him, and he'll never ever be able to say you never told him. Keep record of sending it. Also, if you have his email address, send the same letter via email too because you can save emails for a really long time. I'd also add in the letter how you'll tell him you're in labor. I mean, he may see you calling, and just won't pick up, so what's the point in that right? I'd let him know that you'll send him a text letting him know it's time and the hospital (in case he actually wants to come down). Also include a call back number for him, in case he wants to call back. The last thing you should be doing while you're in labor is chase after him and have to call him a million times before he picks up the bloody phone! A stress-free F.Y.I. text message should do the trick.
This is how I would do things just in case things end up really messy over child support or custody issues and end up in court. At this point sweety, any contact you have with him, any money you receive from him for child support and every visit he makes to see his son needs to be documented. Because you never know when you'll need to prove your side of things. I know it's yucky to think about all that, but you have to be very careful from now on when it comes to him. I'd start up a "father folder" where you keep all your paper trail (print emails, proof of mailing, child support receipts, you name it!). This may just save your butt later in life if he ever wants to really become a jerk.
I wish you the best of luck! let us know what happens!
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February 8th, 2006, 08:10 PM
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I agree.. You can never be too careful.. I agree 100% with Brigitte
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February 8th, 2006, 08:47 PM
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Yup, I agree....

Let him know that you are thinking about moving and then leave it at that... At least you will have let him know and then it can't be held against you...

Good luck!
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