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February 16th, 2006, 01:46 PM
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Hi, I haven't posted on this board that much, but I wasn't sure where to put this and you guys are all so supportive, so I'll leave it here for now

I had our baby girl Mikayla last month (the 18th). We're a happy family, but when it comes to my family he just gets so angry..

Last night my mother took Mikayla for a few hours so we could have a night alone together (it was my BF's birthday). Well, when she got home I fed her, and my mom and sister held her before they left. I went down to the store with my mom to pick some stuff up and when I got back he completely blows up at me. He said that her diaper was dirty, and that we should've checked her. I even admitted to making the mistake of not checking her. But it had only been like half an hour since my mother had brought her home and they had changed her before they left. Anyways he started yelling saying things like my mother doesn't know anything about babies and I always stick up for her, etc. He wouldn't accept my apology (although I don't know what I was apologizing for..), and kept fighting with me..

(My mom, I admit, hasn't been the best mother these last couple of years.. I love her to death and she was always there for me growing up, but when she met her current BF, he completely took over her life and she listens to everything he tells her, even when it comes to us. But she's still my mother)

He thinks that she's always talking about him behind her back and that I don't do anything about it. Its like he's trying to make me choose between him and Mikayla and my mother/sister. Its really taking a toll on our relationship and I just don't know what to do anymore. I rarely start up fights with him and when he makes a mistake, I don't point it out and make a big deal about it and scream and yell at him, which is why I don't understand why he does to me..

I love my BF so much, and him and Mikayla are everything to me.. But I don't know how much more of his ##### that I can take.. I knew before we started dating what his temper was like, and I know that we would never hit me or Mikayla, but he just has to stop arguing all the time. I really don't want to end things, but sometimes I just don't know..

We haven't talked since last night because I've been avoiding him and I refuse to be the one to apologize (after I already did)..



Ah, I'm SO sorry this is so long. I just needed somewhere to vent. Thanks.
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February 16th, 2006, 01:53 PM
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Hi, I haven't posted on this board that much, but I wasn't sure where to put this and you guys are all so supportive, so I'll leave it here for now

I had our baby girl Mikayla last month (the 18th). We're a happy family, but when it comes to my family he just gets so angry..

Last night my mother took Mikayla for a few hours so we could have a night alone together (it was my BF's birthday). Well, when she got home I fed her, and my mom and sister held her before they left. I went down to the store with my mom to pick some stuff up and when I got back he completely blows up at me. He said that her diaper was dirty, and that we should've checked her. I even admitted to making the mistake of not checking her. But it had only been like half an hour since my mother had brought her home and they had changed her before they left. Anyways he started yelling saying things like my mother doesn't know anything about babies and I always stick up for her, etc. He wouldn't accept my apology (although I don't know what I was apologizing for..), and kept fighting with me..

(My mom, I admit, hasn't been the best mother these last couple of years.. I love her to death and she was always there for me growing up, but when she met her current BF, he completely took over her life and she listens to everything he tells her, even when it comes to us. But she's still my mother)

He thinks that she's always talking about him behind her back and that I don't do anything about it. Its like he's trying to make me choose between him and Mikayla and my mother/sister. Its really taking a toll on our relationship and I just don't know what to do anymore. I rarely start up fights with him and when he makes a mistake, I don't point it out and make a big deal about it and scream and yell at him, which is why I don't understand why he does to me..

I love my BF so much, and him and Mikayla are everything to me.. But I don't know how much more of his ##### that I can take.. I knew before we started dating what his temper was like, and I know that we would never hit me or Mikayla, but he just has to stop arguing all the time. I really don't want to end things, but sometimes I just don't know..

We haven't talked since last night because I've been avoiding him and I refuse to be the one to apologize (after I already did)..



Ah, I'm SO sorry this is so long. I just needed somewhere to vent. Thanks.[/b]

i personally dont think you should be the one to apologize to him because u havent done anything wrong!..you deserve an apology i think u should let him no that your mother isnt always talking about him..you shouldnt have to choose.you should be able to have him and your baby and also your mother. i hope he sees things in a different way and i wish u the best of luck!...by the way i love your babys name! its adorable
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February 16th, 2006, 04:48 PM
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Hi, I haven't posted on this board that much, but I wasn't sure where to put this and you guys are all so supportive, so I'll leave it here for now

I had our baby girl Mikayla last month (the 18th). We're a happy family, but when it comes to my family he just gets so angry..

Last night my mother took Mikayla for a few hours so we could have a night alone together (it was my BF's birthday). Well, when she got home I fed her, and my mom and sister held her before they left. I went down to the store with my mom to pick some stuff up and when I got back he completely blows up at me. He said that her diaper was dirty, and that we should've checked her. I even admitted to making the mistake of not checking her. But it had only been like half an hour since my mother had brought her home and they had changed her before they left. Anyways he started yelling saying things like my mother doesn't know anything about babies and I always stick up for her, etc. He wouldn't accept my apology (although I don't know what I was apologizing for..), and kept fighting with me..

(My mom, I admit, hasn't been the best mother these last couple of years.. I love her to death and she was always there for me growing up, but when she met her current BF, he completely took over her life and she listens to everything he tells her, even when it comes to us. But she's still my mother)

He thinks that she's always talking about him behind her back and that I don't do anything about it. Its like he's trying to make me choose between him and Mikayla and my mother/sister. Its really taking a toll on our relationship and I just don't know what to do anymore. I rarely start up fights with him and when he makes a mistake, I don't point it out and make a big deal about it and scream and yell at him, which is why I don't understand why he does to me..

I love my BF so much, and him and Mikayla are everything to me.. But I don't know how much more of his ##### that I can take.. I knew before we started dating what his temper was like, and I know that we would never hit me or Mikayla, but he just has to stop arguing all the time. I really don't want to end things, but sometimes I just don't know..

We haven't talked since last night because I've been avoiding him and I refuse to be the one to apologize (after I already did)..



Ah, I'm SO sorry this is so long. I just needed somewhere to vent. Thanks.[/b]

i personally dont think you should be the one to apologize to him because u havent done anything wrong!..you deserve an apology i think u should let him no that your mother isnt always talking about him..you shouldnt have to choose.you should be able to have him and your baby and also your mother. i hope he sees things in a different way and i wish u the best of luck!...by the way i love your babys name! its adorable
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I have to agree.
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