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August 25th, 2009, 12:15 AM
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...is the father.

I can't stand him. I am sooooooo happy to be with this baby. I wish I could get rid of the dad though. I would rather do this by myself than have to look at him one more time.

He is childish, ignorant, perverted, annoying, smelly(I know that seems crazy but I can't stand the way he smells), liar, and I think he drinks behind my back. He can't clean up after himself. He's so lazy. I work 48+ hours a week and he is barely going for 20. I throw fits and he pretends to look for jobs to get me to shut up, but we are going on 5 months and he still is barely working 20 hours. He barely helps me pay any bills but lives in my house and eats EVERYTHING in sight.

He lies to me about what he's doing, his where abouts, ANYTHING he can to lie. He's a habitual liar.

I have found beer cans and liquor bottles in my storage closet, in a bag that he thought was trash and in his car.

He is racist. He always makes ugly comments. Looks up ugly things on the internet.

He says things like playing with our baby with fire and doing bad things.

I just don't want him to be a part of this anymore.

I've told him to get out many times, and I feel like when it comes right down to it that I will have to call the police to escort him out because he wont leave.

He has nowhere to go, and I feel bad about it, but it's not my fault.

Just today, while I was at work (where else) my mom asked me where he was out of curiosity, so I phoned him. He was "driving around" on gas money that I had barely given him. I did NOT give him gas money to go blow. Then when I got home, I could almost swear to smell alcohol, but not for sure. Of course he denied it.

Grrr, is it because I'm pregnant or is he really that big of a loser?
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August 25th, 2009, 05:40 AM
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your guy sounds very much like my best friends ex. Im sorry for you and hope he will straighten his crap out for you and your baby
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August 25th, 2009, 06:13 AM
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Wow girl I couldn't blame you for having enough of him... I hope you work out what to do...
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August 25th, 2009, 06:27 AM
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The guy obviously isnt mature enough to be a responsible parent. He needs to move out and find other arrangements. Once you have the baby you do NOT need someone like him around because you will have a baby to care for.

I wouldnt say cut him out completely, he just sounds like he has some growing up to do and he needs to get his crap together. Maybe seeing his new child will help light a fire under his rear end, maybe not, but you need to do what is best for you and the baby.
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August 25th, 2009, 07:32 AM
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Cut him out of your life. You don't need him.
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August 25th, 2009, 12:24 PM
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I don't mean to be such a gripe, but I just don't know if it's me being hormonal or if this guy deserves the boot. I just don't know....
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August 25th, 2009, 12:35 PM
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Kick him out. You aren't helping him by supporting him. He needs to learn to take care of himself. If he can't take care of himself he won't be able to take care of a baby, and you sure as hell don't need to support 2 babies in the house.
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August 25th, 2009, 04:49 PM
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He says things like playing with our baby with fire and doing bad things.
document all that you mentioned about what he says and looks at on the internet and especially ANY comments like that I quoted. Then go to the police, have him escorted out and make sure the locks are changed and you have an order of protection. Do you live in a building? or a private residence?
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I would not want to have him in my life or my childs life. But that is just me personally.
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September 17th, 2009, 03:11 PM
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I would personally kick him out and don't let him come back.

Sounds like he might do some harm to you and your baby and you don't want that

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September 20th, 2009, 04:06 AM
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The guy obviously isnt mature enough to be a responsible parent. He needs to move out and find other arrangements. Once you have the baby you do NOT need someone like him around because you will have a baby to care for.

I wouldnt say cut him out completely, he just sounds like he has some growing up to do and he needs to get his crap together. Maybe seeing his new child will help light a fire under his rear end, maybe not, but you need to do what is best for you and the baby.
ditto all that!

First off, I'm sorry for your situation. But you sound like you'd be better off alone at this point. This guy is a mooch.

I was a single mom with my first for a while and that was until his dad came around. He had to come around on his own time. It wasn't due to alcohol or him being lazy or a loser, but he just refused to accept the fact that I was having his child whether he wanted it or not. All things changed and we are a happy family of 4 (almost 5) now. So I'm proof that he could change one day, especially once the child is here and he is getting to know it and has to be an example for it.
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September 22nd, 2009, 08:06 AM
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I'm sorry, but you need to get rid of this guy! If you resent him this much already for him being a jacka** and not helping you, it's not going to get ANY better when the baby gets here! You DESERVE someone who is going to treat you right, and just because you have a baby by someone else, does not mean you can't find a GOOD guy!! Yes, some people change, but I would kick him out, and make him prove that he really loves you!! I always say "I can do bad on my own!" I don't need any person, woman or man to bring me down!

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