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You can go to planned parenthood and they can do a dating ultrasound on you. They can also give prenatal care (prenatal vitamins and basic care) while providing counseling no matter your choice. I think you need to decide what is best for you no matter what you boyfriend thinks or "decides."
I dropped a tear in the ocean, and whenever they find it I’ll stop loving you, only then. ~Unknown
There are lots of good pregnancy resources available out there. Try a google search for your area and you should find a lot of good information and support. There are several state programs you may qualify for that could help out financially and emotionally. Definitely take advantage of those sources. They can help you decide what's best for you and your baby.
Mom to Ava, Aiden, and 4 angels
You can do this! Its scary and overwhelming at the moment because the news is still new and hasn't sunk in yet, but it will and you'll be fine. Remember you've got 8 months to think and plan and get used to the idea of a baby.
My advice is don't make the decision based on what he thinks. In our world, moms stick with the consequences much more than dads do. That said, I raised my oldest DD from an unplanned pg at the age of 17. She is now 13 years old and has a great life, although I know she wishes she were closer to her biological dad. If I would have based the decision on his desires that would have been short sighted because he was long gone by month 5. It sounds like your SO is more of a man, however, and I hope he supports you and the baby.
I know it's scary when you don't have much money, but somehow, when you make the right choices, everything ends up working out. DH and I got pg when he was 18 and I was 22 and we were so broke were were living in a studio apt and eating spaghetti almost every night. But just before the baby was born DH started getting more work and we were able to move into a bigger apt and we qualified for food stamps once the baby was born so that helped a ton. Also we got WIC which pays for most of the formula. We also just moved into a tax-credit townhouse so that has helped a lot too. Google WIC in your town and go in and see them. They will help you with some basic food and then I would go apply for welfare. You won't get much until the baby is born but each state is different so maybe you will. The pregnancy may be hard, but once you hold your baby you will realize it was all more than worth it Good luck
I went through the same thing. I was in shock and so scared the first couple weeks to the point I was having panic attacks... once we talked about it, figured out how we are going to make this work, I couldnt have been happier. I have been with my fiance only 9 months, hes in college and im not working. we were going to make it work... but to find out to days ago I miscarried at 9 months!
Things will work out in the end... just go with what ever you feel is the right thing to do & yes, search on google. There are tons of places out there you can go for support!
Lots Of Luck!!!