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I split with the guy I was seeing about a month ago last Thursday I wasn't feeling right so i took a test it was positive so i bought a more expensive test to be sure and that was positive too I am booked in to see the doctor tomorrow, Ive told the father but hes told me he would prefer me to get a abortion and do things properly with someone who loves me (thanks shows how much i meant to him) but if I do decide to keep it he will support me BUT my sister has since told me he has been trying to chat her up on facebook my sister is disabled and has little understanding but he was saying stuff about me which he shouldn't and stuff like I wish I got with you instead of your sister what a "%%££^E££ arrgh I am so angry so anyway the day after all this i got a phone call from him asking me why id told my sister about the baby he actually sounded upset! Anyway I told him to get lost and I've not heard from him since, Ive told my best friend and my mum and grandma since and they all think I shouldn't keep the baby because of the way he is also I live with my grandma and she wants me to leave if I keep it because of the shame of me having no boyfriend I cant afford to rent anywhere as I only have a temporary part time job so I pretty much screwed I guess
bless your heart, dani. my advice to you is to really sit on this for a while and consider your options before you do something you might be forever regretting. you have time. i also concur with the adoption suggestion -- why should a child have to die becuase it's parent (him) is a loser and can't man-up when its needed? i have been in your situation (slightly different, i was raped), at a similar age too (many years ago). i chose to keep my child and it was the right decision for me. check into options you have in your country and programs available. just don't rush to a final decision. keep you chin up and pm me if i can help.
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I think I lurk too much.. I may or may not be on this board within the week. I haven't tested yet but if I am it will have been unplanned.
I just wanted to add that even if it takes a long time, apply for the assistance. Sometimes things are bumped up to the top of the list for pregnant women. I know with some programs in Minnesota you can get assistance during the time they're processing your application. Better to get some help and take some of the stress away rather than dealing with it all by yourself.
I'm sorry you're going through this with very littler support. Is there something in your area like Birth Right or Planned Parenthood? Sometimes those types of organizations can assist you with counseling to help you make decisions. I totally agree with the other ladies that if you don't want to do something, you shouldn't.
I'm sorry you're going through that! I agree with the others, that you shouldnt be pushed into an abortion. And IDK about England but in most states over here if you're pregnant you usually get something like emergency assistance until your application is processed, and those apps for pregnant moms are usually put at the top of the list because your condition is time sensitive and they want baby to have the proper care. It's something worth looking into. My family was upset about me being pregnant at such a young age, but they came around. A lot of ladies I hear where the family was against it, eventually came around. If you can't seem to do adoption that's understandable. Just know that at least with adoption the baby has a chance to live on.. you don't get that with abortion. The choice is up to you though. GL and kup!
Raean, 27 - single mom to Chloe (1.31.03) & Savanna (8.26.05)
I am a single pregnant mom too, and it is a scarey road, but not everyone can have a child & be thankful that you have this opportunity... this baby was givien to you for a reason... and though you face alot of uncertainities, know that there is programs out there that will help you make it through - with medical, with financial needs, food - you just have to do your research to see what is available in you area... I child can bring you alot of happiness & will love you unconditionally - life gives us good times & bad but there is always a way to make it thru... I have a babys dad that is not with me anymore he's chose to be with another woman now that I have his baby on the way & as heartbreaking that is for me, I know this lil baby inside of me brings me more joy than he ever could!! Feeling him move inside of me, watching my belly wiggle when he moves & seein him on the ultrasounds are some of the greatest things to get me thru until my lil one is here for me to hold & love once he's born... You have to do what is best, but do some research, some soul searching before you make any decisions... Best wishes ~ Kim
I still cant make up my mind what to do being pulled in two directions, I feel pretty ill I was weighed at the doctors a few days ago im stll underweight recovering from major weight loss at beginning of this year maybe thats why, im so tired my head hurts with all this
My pregnancy was completely unplanned, the father has his own family, I still live at home, and i only work part time too. But let it sink in a little and then make a decision. Everything happens for a reason hun. But make sure your decision is 100% yours, dont let other people influence your decision.