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I'm 28 weeks along. I was told by two different doctors after ultra sounds that I conceived on the same date - September 3rd.
Now, heres the problem. I was on birth control, and forgot to take it 2 days(August 20th). The day before those two days I had sex with guy "a". I then had sex with guy b. on the 21nd - September 13 with just guy "b".
Seeing as sperm can live up to 6 days - and even though I got both the same dates from both doctors I'm still weary on everything. A day or two could change everything. This would make it that guy B would be the most likely candidate since September 3rd was the day the sperm actually implanted himself - am I correct?
What does everyone else think? I'm rooting for guy B, because guy A was a irresponsible one nighter that I regret horribly. I've made it clear to guy B that I'm not 100% sure that he is the father. We both love each other and I'm living with him. His mother is expecting her first grandchild. I don't want to lie to anyone, and I know the only way to know 100% is after the baby is born when I can have the test done on baby and father. I'd just like a little reassuring that guy B is the most probable father.
Welcome and Congrats on your baby! If you both love eachother, I assume you will both be together even after the baby is born? If that is the case, he will be the father role model no matter what. I would plan for the DNA test asap tho. I hope it all turns out like you want it too and congrats again!
First of all, Congrats! I'm Krystle, the other co-host of this board.
I would say that if you took your pill faithfully and then had sex with guy A. Then you missed for 2 days and had sex with guy B, it would most likely be guy B, not guy A, but that's just my opinion, and I'm not a doctor, so I could be wrong (obviously! )
I have to say that I tend to agree with the above statement by fourtimesamommy. If you both love the child, then there shouldn't be any reason that you would need a paternity test unless he absolutely wants to know for sure or you do. It's really up to you, but if it was me I would just let it go. Unless of course it will be obvious if he's not the father (like one guy was white and the other was black, KWIM? Just an example!) Anyways, it's totally up to you, but it's like she said, takes more than sperm to make a daddy!... It's not a reliable method, but I would wait until the child comes and see if it looks like Guy B. I mean, usually you can tell if the kid does look like the father. If the kid looks more like you, then well, it would be harder to tell. Either way I am sure that it will work out...
Did you tell the one-nighter that you're pregnant? Just curious if you did what he thought of that....????