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March 7th, 2005, 04:10 PM
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I'm 15 years old and i'm not sure if i'm pregnant. I went to a party this past friday and got really drunk so some guy raped me. He ofcourse didn't have a condom and he didn't do the stupid pull out method either. To top that, i was most fertile during that time because i was supposed to have my period in a day or 2. I've been scared and worried since that night because i have yet to get my period and i have been feeling really naseus for a couple hours and then i'd be ok. I took a pregnancy test today, only 3 days after the incident, and it tested negative. I couldn't see how that could be possible so i got on the internet and looked up possible reasons why. I read that the hormone wont show til at least a week after sex. Is that true? Did i test too early? I still havent gotten my period and im not even pmsing anymore. I was before i was raped and now im not even bloated or cramping like that. Do you think it is probable that i am pregnant? The odds are against me. I just need some advice, opinions, or anything please. I have never been this anxious in my life. You can email me at Megano654@yahoo.com or reply here and it would be a major help.
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March 7th, 2005, 04:24 PM
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First of all welcome to JM. I'm sorry this has happened to you. Yes you could be pregnant. You did test too early. You'd have to wait another week or 2 before getting a result. Your best bet may be to just go to the dr in 2 weeks if your period doesnt start. Your period may also be late because you are stressed out.

Did you report this jerk to the cops?? I hope you did something because he doesnt deserve to be walking around carefree while you are home worrying.

(((HUGS))) I hope your period comes. I"m sure you are praying that it does.
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March 7th, 2005, 07:25 PM
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welcome to jm. I am Kelly the other host here. did you tell anyone else about this..your parents, the police anyone???? you need to tell someone what has happened to you. you could be pregnant but it will be a few weeks before you can get an accurate result. you need to see a dr anyway and be checked for any stds while you are there they will prob do a blood test that would give you sooner results. I am sorry that this has happened to you. please find someone in real life that can help you with this situation.
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March 7th, 2005, 07:27 PM
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oh and the nausea could be stress related....not just from pregnancy. I hope everything works out for you
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March 7th, 2005, 08:35 PM
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I don't think your pregnant the nausea is probably from the stress. Report that jerk and be more careful don't put yourself in those kind of situations geting drunk in a party. Go to the doctor and ask them to take a blood test so they can check if you are pregnant and ask them to check you for STD and HIV. May the lord guide you and protect you.
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March 8th, 2005, 08:45 AM
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Megan - Call the National Sexual Assault Hotline 1-800-656-HOPE or go to the website for advice on what to do: http://www.rainn.org/whatshould.html

They can probably best answer your questions about potential pregnancy and what to do about it.

Its pretty important that you report this guy or have a record of reporting this assault. You might have worries about your parents or friends reactions, but trust me, its the right thing to do. Rapists like this guy will do it again to someone else. Help yourself and help other women and report this guy. I'm so sorry that this happened to you.
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March 8th, 2005, 11:56 AM
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i did tell my mom about what happened and i told her i really didnt wanna press charges cuz ppl would really hate me at school and it would just make things worse. it's a different story if it turns out i am pregnant. she said im probly pregnant which is some great support there lol but im not sure. thnx for ur replies they really helped.....still no period

-megan
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March 8th, 2005, 04:15 PM
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I agree you need to report him! I know high school status matters when your in school but in the long run you will feel much better if you don't let him get away with rape. Hopefully the kids at school will hate the rapist, not the victim! And I don't think pregnancy related nausa starts that early, it usually kicks in around 6 weeks. I've seen commercials for home pregnancy tests you can take 5 days after missed period.
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March 8th, 2005, 04:19 PM
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Originally posted by megano9876@Mar 8 2005, 02:56 PM
i did tell my mom about what happened and i told her i really didnt wanna press charges cuz ppl would really hate me at school and it would just make things worse.*
-megan
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If they hate you for what some JERK did to you then you do not need them as friends. You find out who your true friends are during hard times in your life. Someone who could turn your back on you during a time of need is not worthy of your friendship.
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Megan,
Oh God! I am so sorry you're going through this!!! Ok I want to give you a few tips here, hope you don't mind.
1) Just so that you don't start blaming yourself, The guy doesn't need to give you a black eye and almost kill you for it to be rape. The word rape means you were either unable to give your consent or you didn't give your consent. So don't start doubting yourself based on what other people say, they have no idea. All it takes is one 'no' and it's rape. And if you were drunk then you were unable to give your consent and therefor its definetly rape. Also if he's over 18 it's statutory rape regardless of whether or not you give consent.

I was in the same position as you new year. After I remembered what had happened the first thing I thought of was 'oh no I could be pregnant.' Pregnancy isn't the end of the world as I discovered. There's other things that you need to see to immedietly.

1)Megan, I know it's really hard but you got to go to your doctor and get checked out for stds. That's really important. I don't want to scare you but stds are much worse for women than men.Some stds can stop you from ever being able to have children. It's really important that you get checked out for them, early detection is important and it's crucial you have peace of mind about it.

2) This is the really tough part but counselling is important. It will really help you to get over this. Believe me Megan, these things catch up with you later. I was in shock for months, just off in la-la land, feeling totally numb. I just sat in my room and struggled to believe what happened had actually happened. And then suddenly it hit me. I started having nightmares and almost overnight developed a phobia of enclosed spaces, like the bus. Only the other night I had a nightmare and I gritted my teeth so hard that I shattered a filling, my tooth just crumbled-disgusting, it woke me up though. The counselling is tough but worth-while and it'll stop you from falling into the frame of mind which is "Its my fault" every rape victim believes it's their fault and it's not!!!


3)Who need enemies with friends like that in school? I understand why you're hesitant about pressing charges though, I didn't press charges either. However I didn't close that door either. I did start a statement and I did let them take phoresnic evidence. I have a case against him if I change my mind. The evidence is there.


4) The best thing you can do is decide for yourself how is the best way for you to recover from this.Some people press charges, I decided that wouldn't help me. I wasn't interested in punishing him at the cost of me having to face him in court again. I decided to heal I would need to see a counsellor, so I went to a rape crisis centre. I had to take pills to help me sleep but I see my doctor every two weeks to make sure I'm taking them responsibly, it's easy to get addicted to them
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Again I don't want to upset you but I got to tell you that pregnancy isn't as scary as some Stds are. Pregnancys not as scary as dealing with all this 10 years down the road. It's best to get treatment sooner rather than later for stds and its better to get counselling sooner rather than later for trauma because it'll help you to move on. I really hope you get counselling and get checked asap for stds. As for pregnancy, you can cross that bridge when you come to it. For now, focus on counselling and seeing a doctor to make sure you havent got any stds now.



You are able to get through this, you have support here. Please keep us posted on what happens. I'm here if you want to talk or you can e-mail me jmdw18@hotmail.com. There's a fantabulous support group here. HUGS!!! PLease don't be afraid to ask for help, nobody expects you to get through this on your own and you don't have to.


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Julie
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March 19th, 2005, 01:32 PM
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i am really sorry to hear about what happened to you... it's really hard when that happens... it happened to me when i was your age when i went on a school trip to San Diego. instead of going out with my class i got to go see some family that i had that lived there ( i live in canada)... the girls i was sharing my room with picked up a bunch of guys and had them come to our room... we all got really drunk and i was walking past the washroom when someone pushed me in and raped me. i put up a bit of a stuggle and hit my head on the toilet. when i got up in the morning i had to clean the blood that was all over the washroom and i prayed that no one had been in there yet... i cried, i cleaned it up and never told anyone. i wish now that i had. he did this to you and now you aren't sure if you are pregnant, doing nothing leaves him free to do it to someone else. you never know it could end up being some one you know.
i am 23 now and pray that what happened to me never happens to anyone else. i didn't think that anyone would believe me and that i would be the one to get in trouble because we were drinking. it's hard to be strong when someone has broken you. it's taken a long time for me to get over and i have a hard time trusting people and don't drink to get drunk... you should go see your doctor to see that pregnancy isn't the only thing he could have given to you.
there are a lot of people here for you if you need them.
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