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I never thought this much sadness would stem from my unplanned pregnancy. I'm only 16 weeks and 3 days, but it seems like my life has come to a halt. Firstly I move to a new state with my parents, because their job moved and I can't support myself yet (almost 21, pathetic right?) so I had to come with them, then I leave my friends and support system back in texas, so now I'm in a huge city, and I don't know anyone. So I can't really go out and hang out with friends, because I have no way of meeting new people. Then my parents give me this opportunity to work with them here where we moved, and I always seem to not feel good so I never have this happy-go-lucky positive attitude. So they are always on my case about being tired, or being in a crummy mood...and being hormonal and depressed adds on to how crappy I feel around them. Then, my parents seem to be so annoyed by me. I say something, and they act like it was the most annoying and irritating noise they have ever heard. They are short with me, always yelling and talking down to me, and they make me feel horrible and unwanted. So what it comes down to, is that I'm not excited about my pregnancy anymore. Because now I'm stuck here relying on my parents for everything, and I have no choice but to settle and accept how they feel. Living with people who can't stand you is hard, but knowing they purposely go out of their way to make me feel like crap hurts more.
Sad thing is, they used to support me about my pregnancy. Ugh. Sorry, I had to vent.
Take a minute to breathe, and evaluate your situation.
I know it must be hard for you right now, with moving, an unplanned pregnancy, and being dependent on your parents. See if you can't get involved with some counseling, it may help you. Also, maybe search for a job of your own that will help with your own income, at least some..
Everything has a way of working itself out. I know I'm not much help, but a pregnancy is a HUGE hormonal change, and life change.. Your depression and feelings may be part hormonal, and some part environmental.. Talking to your doctor, and/or a counselor may help.
Im sorry you are feeling so down and that your parents are acting this way. That must be really hard to deal with ((HUGS)) Have you tried sitting down with them and talking about how they are making you feel? Maybe the move and everything was stressful for them too and they dont realize that they are hurting you. Hope everything gets better soon! Everything will work out!
Sorry to hear your are feeling so sad and alone. I know that right now you must be on an emotional roller coaster. Perhaps you can call some of your friends back home, just because you cannot hang out with them doesn't mean they can't be there to support you.
I hope you can find someone to talk to and feel better soon.
I'm really sorry you are going through this Chryssie. I can relate with depression. We are the same age, and though i'm not living with my parents anymore, i am being supported by my boyfriend.
I agree with what everyone said about pregnancy hormones. You are already in a tough situation with an unplanned pregnancy. The hormones can make those feelings and moods feel 10 times worse. If you ever need to vent, don't be afraid to just let it out on here. We are non judgmental and here to listen.
Counseling is also a wonderful thing that could really help. I just started counseling with a great therapist and already i feel like things are looking up for me. Look into what outpatient care you can get under your insurance.