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November 25th, 2010, 07:22 PM
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Ok... so I am almost 8 weeks pregnant. I have known for about 4 weeks now. I still dont really feel all that much love/excitement about this coming baby. I am trying hard and REALLY want to feel attached/into having this baby but its still not there.

I think I still have a lot of doubts. I always thought I wanted to have a child but I sorta feel like I am not gonna be happier with this baby. I feel like our life is great without any kids.

How do I get there? I feel like something is really wrong with me. My good friends and BF have all said not to worry and it will get better. When? How do I help that? Is something just wrong with me?
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November 25th, 2010, 10:44 PM
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Don't beat yourself up.... it is all perfectly normal. For me, I was able to get really excited and feel "connected" to this baby when I heard the heartbeat for the first time and saw the baby during the ultrasound. It made it all real for me at that moment.

With an unplanned pregnacy, all the worries about how your life is changing can sometime overwhelm you, I still get overwhelmed with it and I am 17 weeks. But eventually you will see you baby, hear the heartbeat, feel the flutters/kicks, shop for baby clothes, etc and the excitment will come. You will get there, just be patient.
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November 28th, 2010, 11:37 PM
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My baby was unplanned and my boyfriend was the one who wanted the baby, i felt better after hearing the heartbeat but it was when i found out that she was a girl and felt her kick that i actually fell in love, i cant wait for her to come now. You will be fine, its a big shock and you just need to get used to it!
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November 29th, 2010, 08:30 AM
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Originally Posted by BelindaG20 View Post
My baby was unplanned and my boyfriend was the one who wanted the baby, i felt better after hearing the heartbeat but it was when i found out that she was a girl and felt her kick that i actually fell in love, i cant wait for her to come now. You will be fine, its a big shock and you just need to get used to it!
to this.

When i found out the sex and saw him sucking his thumb on the ultrasound the feeling of excitement really hit me. And that feeling really increases as i get further along. I can feel him kicking and see him moving around all the time now.

It just makes it feel much more real.

Give it some more time. I'm sure those feelings you are searching for will hit you further in your pregnancy.
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November 29th, 2010, 01:20 PM
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i felt no connection until i saw the ultrasound and had a name for him and he started kicking me... before that i didnt really believe i was actually pregnant, even though i knew i was.
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November 29th, 2010, 07:25 PM
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I had a hard time being happy and feeling connected during my pregnancy. I spent the first few months "coming to terms" with being pregnant. I was probably in my 3rd trimester before I felt a real connection to my little one.
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December 1st, 2010, 09:49 AM
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It didn't really hit me until the 3rd trimester... When you really start to show, & you really start to feel the baby move... it's love
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