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  #1  
January 17th, 2011, 02:39 PM
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I don't know what to do. This will be my second child only this time I am completely alone. I thought I could handle it but today I was so distressed I had to contact the Samaritans. My ex was hopeless when my daughter was born that I was depressed and lonely and nobody cared. Even when I told the health visitors I had cut myself they did nothing to help or check I was ok. Going back to work saved my sanity but this time round I am a single mother and I can't go back to work and as useless as my daughters dad was at first it was still *somebody* rather than nobody around and he cooked and cleaned so helped in non-baby things.

I know I couldn't live with myself if I terminated this baby but I just don't know how I can survive going on?

I don't know if it's worth going doctors tomorrow? What can they do? I'm already on list for counselling but is 28wk waiting list.
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Seperated June 2010 from my husband. One daughter DOB 26/07/2006. BFP 06/01/2011, due september but 'high risk' for premature birth.

Hi. Im Jolene. 31 years old. I suffered three years of a short luteal phase and didnt think I could get pregnant again without medical assistance but fell pregnant by accident and naturally. I am really happy and excited to be having a baby although knowing Im going it alone this time is a bit daunting and scary!
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January 17th, 2011, 03:31 PM
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*hugs* I am so sorry. We are all here for yoyu if you need to talk. Sometimes it really helps to just talk and get it all out.
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January 17th, 2011, 05:45 PM
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Talk to your OBGYN alot of times Dr's can bump people up on waiting lists.
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January 18th, 2011, 08:34 AM
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Have you talked to your ob at all? Maybe they can help.
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January 19th, 2011, 07:37 PM
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Is this the same father as Dakota or a different guy? ((Hugs))
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January 19th, 2011, 08:28 PM
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It's a different father. And is not going to be in the picture at all.

I did go to the doctors. He was useless as I expected. Said 'oh well we can't perform miracles' and just said he would research if there was any medication I could take (I don't really want meds). I'm on a waiting list of 28wks for councelling and his response was just 'oh 28wks now? It's gone up. Used to be 18wks'

Straight after the docs I went to a centre called Life that I had found online. It is an anti-abortion clinic that offer support to pregnant women. And it was wonderful! I got to pour my heart out for hour and half (totally free of charge) and felt so good that someone listened! And they started me on councelling starting tomorrow! And she had an idea that maybe I should do voluntary work (as I can't go back to work on a paid income) so I phoned a animal sanctuary and asked if I could help out and they said come see them today so all positive things.

It is currently 4.30am here tho... I can't sleep as I am worrying over how my pregnancy is changing my friendship/bond with my best friend as I can't be wild and semi-carefree with him no more
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Seperated June 2010 from my husband. One daughter DOB 26/07/2006. BFP 06/01/2011, due september but 'high risk' for premature birth.

Hi. Im Jolene. 31 years old. I suffered three years of a short luteal phase and didnt think I could get pregnant again without medical assistance but fell pregnant by accident and naturally. I am really happy and excited to be having a baby although knowing Im going it alone this time is a bit daunting and scary!
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January 20th, 2011, 05:51 AM
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I am so glad you were able to talk to someone and get some counseling.
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January 20th, 2011, 06:41 AM
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I am so happy for you! I am glad you found some place where you can talk and feel better. I agree, getting out of the house would prob help and I am glad you found a place you can do that which you think you will enjoy.
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January 21st, 2011, 07:48 AM
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So glad you were able to get counseling! Sometimes just having someone to talk to who will REALLY listen does a world of good. I hope and pray you can continue to get the support you need to guide you through this
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January 26th, 2011, 01:40 PM
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You are stronger than you give yourself credit for. For starters, you are brave enough to discuss these things with your doctor. Second, you made the effort to seek out someone on your own when your doctor didn't help. That was a smart and brave decision, and you really should feel great about that. So many people would give up and stop searching for help.
There are support systems out there for situations like yours. It's going to be tough, but you have shown yourself that you are not only capable, but perfectly equipped to handle this beautifully. Have faith in yourself--you can do this. And we are here to listen any time you need.
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