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Hey, I'm Rachel, 21 and due March 28th with my first, very much unplanned, but very much wanted, baby.
I'd been casually seeing this guy for 2-3 months. Nothing serious, we'd just get together maybe 3 times a week, dinner, movies, hanging out, sex.. very very casual. I had to go on anti-biotics and the doctor didn't tell me that they can stop the pill from working. Sex + anti-biotics + pill = baby. I didnt find out until I was 14 weeks gone. It took me 3 weeks to pluck up the courage to tell the dad. We were only seeing each other around once a week by then, the relationship (if u can call it that) was starting to fizzle out naturally. As you can imagine, he was shocked. We talked for hours about what to do, our options. There is no way I could abort. The dad said it was ultimately my decision and that he would support me no matter what, he just wasn't ready to be a dad. I'm ok with that. Truly, I am. I don't think badly of him, neither of us meant this to happen. We don't blame each other at all. He said he will help financially.
Thanks for sharing your story. That is good that you have the support of the father. You sound like you have really come to terms with the pregnancy and have a great attitude about it. It took me a while to get used to the idea but now i'm very excited as well. Do you have your family's support as well? I don't have my parents support but the support from the rest of my family and from the fathers family has really been what got me through the rough patches.
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