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I'm very sorry that you are having to go though this. It's very hard to do this with someone much less alone.
Now you need to take action from a legal standpoint, you should keep indirect contact with him for the remainder of the pregnancy i.e. mail,e-mail,maybe text. Save all of it. You should send him a note from your Dr stating that you are pregnant,that you appear to be in good health,the baby appears to be in good health,and the approximate fetal age of the baby. You should try to send this certified mail so he has to sign for it and he can't show up in court later saying that he didn't know you were pregnant and/or not taking care of yourself or the baby.
Send him copies of the ultra sounds and keep him updated on any tests or helth issues during the pregnancy.
Go ahead and talk to a lawyer. Consultations with most are free and get something set up that shortly after birth you can have him petitioned by the court to establish paternity and set up child support and visitation or to establish paternity and sign away his parental rights. He should be given the option of both.
I have a friend that's going though something very similar and know alot about the legal process as I am the main witness in her case.
I agree with Leogirl...that's very similar to what happened with my last pregnancy except when he could no longer lie to his other girlfriend (that he went and got on the side w/o my knowledge) about the baby not being his (dna doesn't lie and he couldn't refuse it in front of his g/f when i threw the option on the table). now he's a very loving father; doesn't do much financially, but thankfully, i am able to fully provide financially and the fact that he's there emotionally and physically for his children is my main concern.
I agree with leogirl and hoping. S sorry you have to go through this alone but you can make it through. There is no way he can get out of his financial responsibility at the very least. You didn't make this baby by yourself...it takes 2.