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Hi everyone! I recently took two pregnancy tests and they were both positive. I called an OB to make an appointment and they said they don't retest to confirm a pregnancy. They just go with the at home tests. Then, my first appointment is in 5 weeks...when I will be 10 weeks pregnant. That just seems like such a long time to wait!!!
And I'm trying to stress out but i'm worried about miscarrying. I haven't had one previously, this is my first pregnancy, so i'm really nervous. Anyone have the same experience and or any comforting words?
I was worried about it as well, but please don't fret! I put myself through a lot of worry that was unneccessary. When anything went wrong I thought the baby was in danger. (There was one day when I didn't feel my usual morning sickness at around 6 weeks so I thought the baby had passed away and I lost my hormones. Turns out I should of been thankful for that day because it was completely normal) I also worried about these minor cramps I always had. I would even cry!
It was a wierd thing. I would cry because I was pregnant (since I didn't want to be pregnant in fear it would ruin my wedding and other parts of my life) and I would cry because I loved the little bean so much and the thought of losing something that had a heart.
But please know that yes, M/C happens. It is a very sad thing. My aunt lost twins at 6 months, my mom had a still born during her last weeks of pregnancy. So I was always worried that I would be next. Even though I made it past the magical 12 weeks, there is always a chance.
There is also a bright side to all of this! Once you hear the heart beat M/C goes down. Once you make it past 14 weeks (some say 12) it goes down to nearly 2% a pregnancy. And if this makes you feel any better, missed miscarriages happen to over half of the M/C that happen during the first 8 weeks. This means that if you made it to 6 weeks pregnant, you really have a very small chance of M/C. The M/C rate seems so high because they include missed M/C - which many women don't even know they had a missed m/c! As you can tell I did a lot of research during early pregnancy. I am now in my 3rd trimester and I tell you what - I had EVERY symptom in the book that said I M/C. But I think I just went crazy. So don't stress about it. Pregnancy is NATURAL - and M/C is rare. I also think rates have gone up since a lot of women getting pregnant now are nearly in their 30's vs when people got pregnant when they were 21-25. There is also more polution, medicine, and diseases floating through the world.