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Hi, my name's Lana, I'm 20 years old. I have a 17 month son who I got pregnant with when I was 18. It was very unexpected and definitely unplanned. I was a mess for most of the pregnancy. I just couldn't see any positive aspects to it. I thought it was going to ruin my life. It has made life harder, but it's made my life better as well. Recently, I found out that I'm pregnant again. I'm still with my son's dad. We decided we didn't want anymore children until we were both done with college, and then not for several years after that. We haven't told anyone yet (I don't even know how far along I am). I feel like I'm going to look so stupid, getting pregnant by accident twice! Even before the first baby we were really good about using protection, it was only one time we didn't use anything (I know a baby can come from just one time, obviously). We were really good about it since then too, I don't even really know how this happened. I'm not on birth control, but we always use protection. Who will believe that though? Anyway, I don't have the same feelings I did when I found out I was pregnant the first time, I'm just scared about how we'll manage everything and what our families will say. I just want to curl up and cry.
Thanks. I just feel like it's a lot more complicated than that though. It wouldn't be such a big deal if we were older or just more established when this happened. We're trying to finish college as quick as we can and it's hard enough with 1 child right now. I still don't feel that my mom is completely over the disappointment of me getting pregnant the first time.
I still haven't told anyone else yet. I'm going to wait until I can't hide it any longer.