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  #21  
July 6th, 2006, 11:02 AM
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So, I'm going for an ultrasound today. The Dr. said that they are pretty accurate this early on + or - 2 or 3 days. All I can do is pray, pray, pray that they tell me I conceived around the 31st. That way I would know it's exes (well maybe not know, because I know they can be off, but if they give me a date around then, plus the fact I took m.a.p. on the 7th, I would feel more secure that it's exes) If they say around the 4th or the 6th I'm back to square one. Ugh!
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July 6th, 2006, 12:43 PM
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Good luck and keep us posted!
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July 6th, 2006, 01:30 PM
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Good Luck!!

hey... do you watch Days of Our Lives?? This is like a Bo/Hope/Patrick thing!! (almost...)

yes... i'm a soap geek.
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  #24  
July 7th, 2006, 01:28 AM
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hmmmm i think the dad of your baby is your ex bf.... we have the same sistuation... but with my exbf and my presentbf i found out that i was 2months pregnant... but the baby didnt survive... it was as eptopic pregnancy
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July 7th, 2006, 06:37 AM
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I have good news and bad news. The good news is that my baby is healthy and has a strong little heart beat. The bad news is that the ultrasound dated my conception June 7th! What are the chances...wow. So, I had to call other guy and tell him. He was really great about it, and boyfriend is extremely upset (we really thought it was boyfriends), but he's dealing. Both are being supportive which I didn't expect at all.

So, I've made the decision to have a prenatal paternity test. I know the risks involved, but I also know that emotionally I can not handle going through this pregnancy unsure.

Has anyone heard of the non-invasive prenatal paternity? Does anyone know if it's a scam or real? Apparently they take moms blood and both guys and they can split dna and tell which guy is the dad. Sounds like a scam to me, but if it's not someone please tell me.

My options are CVS or Amnio and I know both pose significant risk. I'm going to go ahead and do it though. Does anyone have any experience with this?

Thanks for listening.
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July 10th, 2006, 03:12 PM
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i do not have an unplanned pregnancy. however, i just wanted to tell you there is still an excellent chance of your baby being your ex's. in all reality implantation doesn't usually happen in one day. on average it takes anywhere from 3-12 days. so hopefully it works out for you and it is your ex's baby. that is what you want right? good luck!
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July 11th, 2006, 07:11 AM
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Thank you for replying. Yes, I desperately want it to be my ex's. Our whole life is planned together and we were going to get married and all. But, then this happened and everything went on hold. Do they count the start of pregnancy from implantation or fertilization?

The other down is that the other guy who pretended to be so supportive and all called me and left a message on my voice mail that said "I thought about it and this is not something I want in my life right now" Wow, that hurt. And of course made me mad, I know I did wrong, but it's not his choice and I'm not having an abortion so, I left him a message saying as much.

Lord please let this baby be my ex's so life can go on as planned.
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July 13th, 2006, 03:06 PM
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You are in my thoughts! Sorry I dont have any knowledge on prenatal paternity tests! But I agree with the post before... it could definately be his because the day my doctor says I became pregnant I KNOW I didn't have sex because we were in a big fight! Hope that helps assure you a lil bit!

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July 16th, 2006, 01:50 PM
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I would say it's you EX's. You would already have been pregnant for over 72 hours by the time you took Plan B and it wouldn't work. But if it was the other guys it would have probably worked being within 24 hours. Plus with a positive pregnancy test on the 19th it's more likely to be the EX's since it might no show up so soon if it was the other guys. You also had sex with your EX's on the "textbook" most fertile day. I'd put money on the EX. And please don't be embarrased! Many women have done the same thing but are just too embarrased to admit it. I have!
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July 17th, 2006, 09:05 PM
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I would say you're ex's. cause i don't think the pill will work if you're a few weeks into the pregnancy. But i would be letting you're doc know you took it
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July 18th, 2006, 06:27 PM
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Hey. Popping in from Jan. due date club.. Mine was unplanned also.. But I will tell you that they extimated me on concieving on day, and I didn't even have sex that day.. It was actually 3 days early.. So the date isn't set in stone yet.. So don't beat yourself up over it just yet.. Evrything happens for a reason.. And whatever is meant to be, is meant to be.. I'm sure the baby will have a wonderful father either way. I'll pray that it is your boyfriends.. ooppsss.. Ex.. LOL
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July 19th, 2006, 10:56 AM
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Ok, I'm gonna say.. take a paternity test after the baby is born. Honestly, I know too many people that try and determine their cycles and implantation times, and end up being very inaccurate. When I was administered the morning after pill, the doctor asked me if there was a chance I was pregnant because it could potentially end the pregnancy.

So... personally, I wouldn't settle for any answer until a DNA test was performed.. (maybe I watch a little too much Maury but I've swore that some babies belong to one father- because of their appearance, when in fact it turns out to be the other one!)

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July 19th, 2006, 12:03 PM
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So... personally, I wouldn't settle for any answer until a DNA test was performed.. (maybe I watch a little too much Maury but I've swore that some babies belong to one father- because of their appearance, when in fact it turns out to be the other one!)

Good luck to ya!
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Amen to that. I remember one eposide where 2 people had a baby (both white), and the baby ended up being ( or should I say looking mixed or african) and the man kept saying that there was NO WAY that that child was his, cause of the color. Come to find out.. It WAS his baby,, they did some research and found out the both the mother and father had some kind of mixed race in there family history that went back like several years.. like 50 -100 years..
So therefore you never know. Then again, the chances of that ever happening again, are proberly slim to none
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July 19th, 2006, 01:31 PM
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So... personally, I wouldn't settle for any answer until a DNA test was performed.. (maybe I watch a little too much Maury but I've swore that some babies belong to one father- because of their appearance, when in fact it turns out to be the other one!)

Yep, I completely understand that. I am scheduled for a prenatal paternity test in 4 weeks. I talked to my ob/gyn about the risks etc. and I am going ahead with it. I just can't go on not knowing. I am going to have it done through CVS and then I'll know the results in 5 days. So, by the end of August I will know, and whichever way it turns out (hoping it's my exes, fingers crossed) at least I will have the peace of mind knowing.....
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July 22nd, 2006, 11:26 AM
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I know the morning after pill has no effects on a pregnancy that has already arose. However, I do strongly believe it will be your ex's dna.
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July 23rd, 2006, 02:31 PM
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Hey, I just started reading this thread today. I wanted to wish you luck and CONGRATS on your pregnancy and healthy baby! If the baby isn't your b/f's, will you two stay together regardless, seeing as how the other guy seems to want to bail? I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and I hope for everyone involved it's your b/f's baby! Not only because it'll be really great for you two, but because mixed babies are just the cutest ever!
Hope all works out for you guys and please keep us posted!
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July 24th, 2006, 09:53 AM
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I'm not sure whether we will stay together if it's not his? He says he doesn't know if he can handle it, but that it's not farfetched that he might get over it because he loves me and wants to spend his life with me. So, at this point I'm not sure.

They bumped my CVS up a week so I will know the second week of August. Time seems to be moving so slow.

The only thing I'm worried about now though, is if it is my (ex, bf, whatever he is at this point) we've spent the last month trying to distance ourselves from eachother incase it's not, that I wonder if we can just fall back into place if it is?

oh, well, I'm rambling now, I'll update this once I find out....two weeks to go....
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July 24th, 2006, 11:03 AM
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I know the morning after pill has no effects on a pregnancy that has already arose. However, I do strongly believe it will be your ex's dna.[/b]

Yea if you were pregnant before takinf the Plan B... Plan B will not work
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July 29th, 2006, 05:58 AM
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just popping in to see how things are going-- they count the start of your pg--the first day of your last period (silly I know--we were all pg before weeven had sex )
anyhoo--good luck to you!!
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August 6th, 2006, 11:40 PM
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I tend to think it is your ex's as well---PlanB is 89% effective within 72 hours and 95% effective within 24 hours and it will not effect an existing pregnancy. Also, most advice on trying to conceive suggests that you have sex before ovulation vs after or on the day of, and more than likely you ovulated before you had sex with #2. But please do check in once you have an answer. I am in a very similar situation. I completely understand what you are going through and wish you the best of luck.
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