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  #41  
August 7th, 2006, 09:35 AM
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Well, I go for my CVS tomorrow. I'm really nervous since there is such a high rate of miscarriage with the procedure. (between 1 in 100 and 1 in 200).

I'm supposed to know within 5 days after my test, but since the weekend I'm guessing I won't know till next Monday. How absolutey horrifying this week in going to be.....
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August 7th, 2006, 02:36 PM
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I'd say your ex's. Good luck :*
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August 8th, 2006, 06:19 AM
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Hey Gracie, I am sooo late on this thread! I guess you will know soon enough though...I just wanted to say good luck! When I first found out I didn't know who the father was either...I don't keep track of my cycles at all, and I had been with my ex fiance about a month before I was with Chris the first time. I was sooo upset when I found out it was Chris's, I still love my ex and we always wanted kids together. I have to say though, he has really come around. At first he was really upset and wanted me to get an abortion b/c he knew it wasn't his, but after he realized that I was definately keeping it he started to come around. He thinks I'm reallly strong for keeping the baby despite the fact that her father is a certified a** who totally abandoned me (which it sounds like this other guy is doing ) and he has totally come to terms with everything and is so sweet when it comes to my daughter. Just yesterday he accidentaly hit my stomach with the door and he was so concerned and was rubbing my belly and asking if his little girl was going to be ok and he is already talking about possibly getting back together with me and raising my daughter with me...I'm trying not to get my hopes up but I just wanted to let you know this because he is one of the most jealous posessive men I have ever known, he HATES the idea that I was with someone else even though we were broken up, but time has lessened that blow for him and he really doesn't care anymore. I'm sure your bf/ex will be the same way if it turns out not to be his. Things have a way of working themselves out, and even if it is worse case scenerio being a single mommy is NOTHING to be ashamed of Good luck and please keep us posted!
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August 9th, 2006, 06:22 AM
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Ok, so I had my cvs yesterday. Ex went with me so they could take his DNA at the same time. The procedure itself was NO fun, but I think the after affects were just as bad. I'm back at work, but I'm not supposed to do anything for 24 hours (which it's almost been).

The Dr. who did it and the ultrasound lady were really nice. According to them I was a text book case and very easy. I haven't had any negative effects and am considered to be in the clear in the next few hours as far as risk of miscarriage etc.

Now, it's just the waiting!

Oh, and they dated me even farther back to the 1st which gives me a higher chance of it being ex's Yay!
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August 9th, 2006, 07:14 AM
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Hey just snooping around! But I think it's your ex's.. I really hope so becasue it seems as though that is what you want... and only you would know who would be the best for your child.
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August 10th, 2006, 02:15 PM
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Hello! I hope that your CVS procedure went well and that you and your baby are doing well. Please give us an update when you feel up to it!

As I will likely be having a CVS or amnio myself for the exact reason you did I am very interested in any details you are willing to share.

Also, quick question--did your doctor order the CVS or did you do it outside of your doctor through a DNA testing center?
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August 11th, 2006, 07:10 AM
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As I will likely be having a CVS or amnio myself for the exact reason you did I am very interested in any details you are willing to share.

Also, quick question--did your doctor order the CVS or did you do it outside of your doctor through a DNA testing center?[/b]
I'm feeling much better, out of the risk zone and not having any problems.

What details would you like to know? You can message me or post it on here.

I went through a DNA center to get the process started. When I went to my Dr. I told her about it (because I had questions about risk etc. and she needed to know) and she tried to get the doctor who does CVS's at my practice to do it, but he couldn't because of the legality of it all and how things have to be sent and the chance that the performing doctor can be called to court if it becomes a legal matter. So, I had to go to a place that the DNA center told me does it. I checked the place out before I went. It's a huge teaching hospital in my area with tons of awards. I had the procedure done by a CVS specialist.

Oh, and the DNA center made it really easy, they schedule and do everything for you. Now it's just waiting to find out that is hard. I called today and they told me it won't be ready till next Wednesday...grrr
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August 11th, 2006, 09:45 AM
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Glad you are feeling better. Was the process painful? How long did it take? Did your doctor discourage you from it at all?

I spoke with a DNA center the other day and they seemed to have a very organized process. It will just be so much more expensive if I can't get the CVS or Amnio arranged through my doctor. Worth every penny though. I just can't get this out of my mind---I envy that you will be finding out by Wednesday! Wednesday is when I see my doctor. I hope it all works out for you, but I do think it will be your exs. Hopefully mine will work out as I want it as well.
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August 11th, 2006, 10:19 AM
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Was the process painful? How long did it take? Did your doctor discourage you from it at all?[/b]
I have to be honest, I thought the process was a little painful, but compared to other things, like labor LOL, it doesn't even tip the scale. They did my CVS with the needle through the belly (vs. the catheter type tube through the cervix) and this is supposedly the less painful way. I got myself really worked up and nervous before the procedure because the lady told me "i'm going to be honest with you it's going to hurt" I couldn't stop shaking. But, then they did the ultrasound and I started to calm. The dr. gave me a shot in my belly first to numb the skin so I didn't feel the needle go in at all. Honestly, the entire procedure only lasted about 1-2 min. There was one painful jab when the needle went through my uterus (the number doesn't go that far) and then uncomfortable cramping while he moved the needle up and down to get the villus. I think the cramping afterwards was worse then the actual procedure itself.

It's really not that bad, if I had to do it again I wouldn't be nearly as nervous as I was, I think the unknown was scarier than the actual pain ended up being. Oh, and the needle is much smaller than I imagined.

Mr. Dr. didn't discourage me at all. She was actually extremely helpful and just made sure I knew of the risks. She even tried to get the specialist at my practice to do it.

You will be fine, it's really not that bad I promise Keep me updated after you go to the dr. and let me know!
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August 11th, 2006, 10:33 AM
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Oh yes, I meant to add it is very expensive if you're not having it done for medical reasons, because then insurance doesn't cover any of it.

Here's what mine cost:

$275 deposit and referral to a place in my state that would perform the procedure strictly for paternity (there was only 1 place in my entire state that would do cvs for paternity only and nowhere in two of the states bordering mine)

$1,000 the CVS itself

$400 the DNA testing

$30 to have results faxed to me instead of waiting for the mail

Total: $1,705.00 oh well, I got myself into the situation.....
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August 11th, 2006, 01:28 PM
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Just stopping in to say good luck. I hope the results come out the way you want them to. Keep us posted!
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August 14th, 2006, 10:43 AM
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I seriously think I'm going to go crazy between now and Wednesday.

I have to practically physically restrain myself from picking up the phone, calling the DNA center and screaminer "who's baby is it" at the person on the other end. I figure they know by now...I HATE the waiting game.
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August 14th, 2006, 10:51 AM
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Hang in there. Everything is going to work out fine. Wednesday will be here soon. Not soon enough sure, but soon. I am thinking happy thoughts for you.

Wish I had some advice or magic words on how to not stress out about it for the next few days, but really, it will all be over so soon. Good luck!
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August 14th, 2006, 11:09 AM
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Hang in there. Everything is going to work out fine. Wednesday will be here soon. Not soon enough sure, but soon. I am thinking happy thoughts for you.

Wish I had some advice or magic words on how to not stress out about it for the next few days, but really, it will all be over so soon. Good luck![/b]

Thanks, I keep telling myself I made it this long two more days won't hurt, but the closer it gets the more nervous and scared I am that it won't be ex's like I'm expecting and I really need to know so I can start planning for the near future, Ugh!
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August 16th, 2006, 06:42 AM
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I'm going to lose it. Today is the day I find out and every second ticks by like hours. I figured they would call me this morning around 9 or so, that's when most business' open. But no, it's 9:40 and no call yet. I have NOTHING in my inbox at work, so all I"m doing is staring at my cell phone, willing it to ring. I need to stop because I know they say a watched pot never boils....

This is so agonizing. My life is going to change dramatically with either answer I get, but I just want it to be over with and know already!

I have been vomiting for two days, I really think from my nerves and not from morning sickness at all. I'm sitting here shaking, it's hard to type I'm shaking so bad.
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August 16th, 2006, 07:18 AM
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Oh, hun, stop torturing yourself! Just call them up and ask if the results are in yet! I'm sure they will have them ready for you!

Keep us posted! I'm pulling for ya girl!
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August 16th, 2006, 09:15 AM
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Hang in there hun...I know this is tough but it will be over soon enough...just stay strong and keep us posted!
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August 16th, 2006, 09:31 AM
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So, I called and they fax results up until 6:30, well I don't even have access to fax after 5!!! I am fuming right now. They probably should have told me that before I sent my non-refundable payment for the fax!

The lady was so rude, I explained that I'm not here past 5 and she was pretty much like too dang bad.

I guess I just have to hope that they get to mine before 5....YIKES

I'm sure I'm pretty low on the priority list. They do testing for the Maury Povich show, I'm sure he comes first LOL
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August 16th, 2006, 10:47 AM
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Wow that's harsh....but Maury does come first! God forbid they should not be able to find out if the 29th man tested is little Sha'Quil'Ay'Princezz's father!
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August 16th, 2006, 11:06 AM
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OMG it gets worse. I posted this in my DDC to so sorry if anyone is re-reading!

I sold my car to my ex cause I wanted a 4 door. The car is still in my name and remains until he pays it off. He has to be on my ins. cause the car is in my name.

Last night he drove DRUNK and wrecked my car!!!!!!!!!! I just got the phone call. Seriously, bring out the white jackets, I may not make it through this one!
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