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I really can't believe I let this happen. I thought I was getting started with menopause. No--I think I'm pg. Look--I can't even type the word. I'm 49yo and have 22yo kid in college!
I've been a widow for about 3.5 yrs. Ten years ago, this would have been fantastic news--we tried and tried but couldn't carry a baby to term. But DH passed away suddenly and I'm just getting to the point of being happy and excited about being single again.
About a year ago I dated a man who I really liked alot--maybe loved, but it didn't work out. Then we ran into each other again before Thanksgiving and started talking and hanging out. All very nice and slow. But I could tell we were bringing back the old feelings. We went out for New Years Eve and had a blast. We stayed up all night after the party talking and drinking wine and I was careful that night. But then that morning after 2 hours sleep, still full of wine and feeling all in love I let him go with no protection. What an idiot! My cycle is still very regular and I was still over a week away from ovulation--or so the calendar said.
Now I'm in the two week wait phase. I'm much too old to be acting like a silly school girl. But here I am. If you were here, you'd be hearing me scream right about now!!! OMG!
Hey its ok! Take a deep breath!! First of all you don't know yet one way or another and I know thats the worst part! If it was new years eve when you DTD the a test should show positive by now. So test!! (then post pics in AIP of course) Knowing will help. Either way you can accept it for what it is, not what it might be! I am sure I would be freaking out too but even if you are pregnant the fact you have a 22 yr old in college is proof enough for me you are a completely capable parent and while it would certainly change things it wouldn't be the end of the world! A baby is always a blessing, right?
Thanks Jess. I did a double take cuz my best friend's name is Jessica. And your advice is sound, just like hers would be. I picked up some tests today and will test in the morning. Just trying to wrap my mind around the whole idea. Of course children are blessings--and it's not the end of the world. I think I'm more embarrassed than anything else because this is something a teenager would allow to happen--the very thing I continually warn my kid about. While being a single parent is not ideal, I am more financially able to deal with it. I just have to get used to the idea that this new-found freedom of mine will be coming to an end. I just feel like I've been someone's wife or mommy my entire adult life--except for the past few years--and was just starting to enjoy doing exactly what I want to do when I felt like doing it. Selfish? Yes! But this is the first time in my life I've been able to be selfish. But I coming to accept the idea and will know for sure tomorrow. Thx!
We all have slip ups!! Nothing to be embarrassed about! I understand what you mean though!! It would definately be a big change and I can completely see why you would want to have time to do your own thing right now but it is what it is!! Keep me posted! Good luck in the morning!!