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I am a 23 year old, living on my own 2 hours from my family. Im currently saving to finish college and working full time. Last week, I found out im around 12 weeks pregnant, and im terrified. Ive weighed the options and just cant feel good about terminating the pregnancy, as Im so far along. Ive always wanted to have children, but planned on being married and settled before they came.
Ive only told my best friend so far, whose support was never in question. She's wonderful and positive. However, Im scared of telling my parents, who im close to, and know will be heartbroken.
The father and I are not in a relationship, and he just deployed to afghanistan last month. Ive sent him an email to call me as soon as he can, its important, (one week ago) and havent had any response. The thought of doing this without a partner is the worst. I have no idea how he will react or if I will ever hear from him.
You are going to do great and be just fine even though it may be hard. You should tell your parents sooner rather than later. Be super up beat when you talk to them so there is no mistake that you are happy about the situation. Also you may want to have a plan ready when you talk to them too so you can calm any fears that they may have.
As far as the father is concerned. Contact a lawyer. They will know what is best to do in your situation. He has a right to know the child and he has a duty to help you support it.
It's going to be scary because it's new, but you will be okay! Women have been having children with and without partners long before our day. Just because you are single now, doesn't mean that God doesn't have a plan for you.
If you look at your situation as it is now then you will be overwhelmed, but your circumstances won't always be this way. Eventually you will get through school. You will establish the relationships of support that every mom needs. You will fall in love with your child and the days of fear and doubt of your decisions will be in the past.
The Bible tells us God knew you before you were even formed in the womb. This may be a surprise to you, your parents, friends, but everything that happens is all apart of a bigger plan. You may not see it now, but you will!!!
Stay strong. You have already made the strong choice to keep the pregnancy. Your life may not look the way you expected it to, but that doesn't mean it's going to look worse. Change is scary, and facing it without the father must be even scarier. But remember that you are NOT alone. Sounds like you have a supportive friend to stand by you. Your parents may react with heartbreak at first, only because they know this wasn't your plan. Remind them that they raised you to be a caring and responsible person, and as such, you have decided to mother this child. Tell them that you would love any support they can give you, even if it's just positive words. We don't get to pick the timing of all the things in our lives. Both the bad and the good happen unexpectedly and we just have to keep going.
Congratulations on your pregnancy and know that you have friends on here sending their thoughts your way!