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March 3rd, 2012, 01:56 PM
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I am 38. I found out I am pregnant. I am married and have an 8 year old son. I am not sure what to do. I had severe ppd after my son was born. It scared me so bad that I did not know if I would ever recover it was horrible. I survived. We were using condoms when I got pregnant.We were planning on getting a vasectomy but instead we got a positive pregnancy test. As soon as I realized I was pregnant the fear and depression has taken over my life. There are some days I barely function. The thought of having a new born terrifies me I had a hard time bonding with my son. He had colic and then with the ppd it took a long time. My husband is not much on the supportive side he is disappointed that I am not functioning properly. He says he sees pregnant women all the time and none of them look like me. When I had my son I went and lived with my parents for 10 weeks because I was such a mess. I am seeing a counselor but that has been of little help. My Dr. says give it time for my hormones to even out. I am afraid I will not connect with this baby because I just don't want to be pregnant. I am not sure the not wanting to be pregnant is just my fear of this depression and the tough time with a new born or just that I am not a person that can do this..
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March 3rd, 2012, 04:40 PM
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I suffered from ppd as well. I started meds and went through extensive counseling. I am still on meds even though it has been 6 years! I think in my case ppd just triggered what was already an underlying issue.

You can do this! You will be able to do it! Every pregnancy/baby is different. IMO, you are going through anxiety about what happened with your son.

I would recommend meds, if you already aren't on them. Don't let the dr blow you off. Continue counseling and maybe go more often.

HUGSSS!
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March 3rd, 2012, 10:08 PM
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I agree with the PP that every pregnancy is different. I would look into hypnobabies positive affirmations its called joyful pregnancy. It helped me so much to have a calm relaxing pregnancy with our third. I listened to it as I went to sleep every night. I slept amazing and felt amazing! Just like every pregnancy is different so is every baby. huge hugs! We are here to support you!
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March 8th, 2012, 11:33 AM
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Hello, Ive been EXACTLY where your standing.. In your shoes... TRUST ME! Everything will be OK
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March 8th, 2012, 05:41 PM
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I know exactly how you are feeling and I promise you is does get better. I'm 36 with a 6 year old son (that I swore would be my one and only) and 33 weeks pregnant. In August, I peed on a stick and got a positive. I was devastated. I cried all day for at least a week and then off and on for months. I was seriously contemplating abortion and even went so far as to call a couple of clinics. I think it was around 18 weeks that I stopped being in denial and started looking forward to having another child. Now, I look at her little ultrasound pictures and I can't believe I ever thought about not wanting her. She is so wanted now and I'm so looking forward to meeting her and being her mom! I never would have thought that 29 weeks ago! Hang in there mama, you can do this!!!
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March 9th, 2012, 05:49 AM
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I am 40 with an 8 year old when I found out I was pregnant. We were so happy with one. I also called the abortion clinics. Well, I am 33 weeks and still scared, but I trust in God. For whatever reason, this child is meant to be and I am meant to be a mom of two. Was it my plan? Not at all. But, I am trusting in God that this is the right plan for my life. Very scary!
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March 9th, 2012, 09:20 AM
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Thank you so much for your replies. It is nice to know I am not alone. I am trying to get by a day at a time right now. I am just hoping that I can do this and be able to bond with the baby.
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March 16th, 2012, 05:55 AM
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If it's a reassurance at all, i had ppd with my first son... i felt like i didn't function normally till he was about a year old... and with my second, i worried so much that it would be the same way. It wasn't though... i felt more in control of both myself, and my son... i was a more experienced parent, and the freakout culture shock of becoming a parent that first time simply wasn't there the second time - so i really enjoyed my second son! Now i'm 36 and pregnant again, and my youngest is 6 yrs old.... I'm trying to keep a positive outlook on how this is going to go, because I know i'm a great mom and i can do this, and it sounds like you're a gret mom and can do this just fine too! :0

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