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Hi. I guess I should introduce myself by saying that I'm 23 years old and that I just found out I'm pregnant by my best friend. Not boyfriend. Just best friend.
He wants an abortion very badly, and my entire life I always said that if this happened, I wanted one too. I'm not saying that has changed, just that I seem to be having some thoughts that are throwing me off balance. Even though I have never wanted to be a "mom", and still don't, I can't help but imagining the baby. What it will look like, how it will feel to hold it, seeing it look into my eyes.
At this point in time, it would be catastrophic to have this baby. I just graduated college, and am unemployed. I have 3 years, and $200,000, of law school ahead of me, and as I stated before, no maternal urge.
Even though this is all true. It also bugs me to a certain degree that the father isn't having these same kinds of niggling doubts.
I guess my question would be if these doubts are significant enough to make me really consider keeping the baby, or if they're just fleeting fancy caused by hormonal imbalance. If anybody has had, or knows of people who have had, this same kind of dilemma, I would very much appreciate the input.