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June 23rd, 2012, 12:34 AM
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I am pregnant with baby #4. All of our babies have been unplanned. With the past 3 pregnancies we were NTNP. We knew there was a possibility that we could end up pregnant but we were ok with it. With this baby I was charting to avoid. I did great for over 2 years. Then I lost a lot of weight and my cycle took a dramatic change. The signs I usually get to tell me ovuation was approaching disappeared. I only had 3 more weeks until my appointment to get Essure when I got my BFP. I am almost 18 weeks pregnant and having a really hard time accepting it. I get angry every time I feel baby move. I don't want this baby! I thought I might start to bond with the baby when I started to feel it move but the complete opposite thing happened. I don't believe in abortion and would never turn to that as an option. In my heart I really want to give it up for adoption because that is how much I don't want this baby. THe rest of my family is thrilled. DH and the kids are so excited. So I feel for them I have to find a way to accept it. I just dont know how to do it. Any advice??

I have realized that at my next appt I am going to have to go on meds for depression because I can't deal with everything going on. Any words of advice would be appreicated!!
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June 23rd, 2012, 06:01 PM
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Im in the same place..I actually avoided telling anyone until I was 22 weeks because I just didnt want to face it...Im not sure if it'll be the same for you or not but I learned to accept it and now am getting more comfortable with the idea that our family of 5 is going to be a family of 6..I should mention though that I just had a baby in sept and had an appt for a tubal ligation in january at which time I found out I was pregnant..There's nothing wrong with the way you feel but I know my husband fought me tooth and nail over adoption..I wanted to give the baby to someone that would take care of him and be there for him and not think that he wasnt supposed to happen..but he refused to accept it as an option..The longer I carry the baby though the more I think ok..I can do this..Whatever you decide will be the right thing for you and your family..Good luck! KUP!
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July 23rd, 2012, 01:12 AM
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*cyber hugs* I hope things are getting a bit easier for you now.
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July 24th, 2012, 01:51 PM
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*cyber hugs* I hope things are getting a bit easier for you now.
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July 26th, 2012, 11:48 AM
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Thanks girls! We had a couple rough weeks. My quad screen came back with not so good news. Level II ultrasound showed cysts on the babies brain. I spent a lot of time praying for a healthy baby. I also would not let myself accept it any more in the event that there was a problem. I ws given the MaterniT21 blood test and given a follow up level II ultrasound. Both ended up perfect. Baby is perfectly healthy. Cysts are gone and every thing checked out perfect! I have accpeted it a lot more. Still have some accepting to do. We have started to buy baby stuff and ar working on a name. So I have come a long way! Thanks!
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July 26th, 2012, 10:06 PM
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Glad to hear things are looking up for you!
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July 27th, 2012, 03:27 PM
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Glad to hear things are getting a bit better for you! Good for you for staying strong, and so sorry about the rough weeks you've had but at least in the end all was good news!
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