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Sorry to vent on this forum, but there really aren't a lot of places to turn that at the very least understand what it's like to have an unplanned pregnancy. I couldn't be happier. My husband and I were engaged when I got pregnant, and after the initial shock, I was really excited. And I still am, don't get me wrong, it's just sometimes I feel like I we rushed into things. I'm only 19 (was 18 when I got pregnant), and it seems like all of a sudden all my opportunities have flown out the door. I was in college, working full time, planning a trip t oEurope with my kid sister; and now it's all I can do to get out of bed and get the bills paid. I feel as though I ruined all the goods things I had going for me just by not being careful enough. I love my husband, and we're both unbelievably excited to meet our little girl, but I hate feeling like she was just a mistake, a good one, but something I'll always regret nonetheless. Sorry, just had to get all that out there!
Sorry you're having a hard time right now with this! I can totally understand where you're coming from, and I know why you feel this way.
Think of it this way. Right now, you see a bunch of downsides to being pregnant-- missing out on a trip you've planned, feeling crummy, putting other plans on hold. Meanwhile, your baby is still mostly theoretical. You can't see he, only feel her kicking, and don't get to spend quality time with her.
Trust me when I tell you that the day she goes from your womb to your arms that's going to change, big time. Suddenly your sweet daughter will become the most real, most precious thing, and while you still may feel the occasional disappointment about the things you gave up, you most definitely will not regret this at all. Your tiny baby will become the most real part of you, and gives an incredible amount of joy and delight. It's impossible to even imagine what motherhood is like before you're there, so for now just relax, try not to stress, and don't worry that you might look back with sadness one day. I don't think you will .
as a 17 year old, trying to juggle a part time job, a full time college class load, a relationship (baby daddy, going on 3 years), and adjusting to the idea of being a mom, it is rough. i see girls my age going off to college, going to europe, going on vacation with their boyfriends.. and we're struggling to find our own place that would be sensible for work and our family. it's really, really hard. i was excited when i found out. she's not even here yet and i already can't imagine my life without her. but reality keeps hitting me in the face and it hurts.
if you want anyone to talk to, i have no advice, but i know exactly what you're going through because i'm doing it myself. i sometimes feel like i've had some experiences stolen- i can't celebrate my 18th birthday at the casino like we'd planned, i'm having my baby shower that day instead. if you want, pm me, and we can vent to each other.