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August 17th, 2014, 12:47 PM
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I feel so upset, confused, angry and guilty I truly do not know what to do. I thought maybe posting on a forum like this could help.
I have 3 beautiful boys, 6.5, 4 and 1 year old. I feel very lucky and knew our family was complete the second I got pregnant with my third. I have given all my baby stuff away, all my maternity clothes, etc. as I was excited to clear stuff out of my house and was so excited of the freedom we were about to enjoy being "baby-free." Everyone in my life knows I was done, never wanted to be pregnant again, etc. my husband and I both work full-time and I know our plates are full and the thought of adding another little one to the mix frankly throws me into an anxiety attack.
I learned I was pregnant 2 days ago on my youngest's 1st birthday. I don't understand how or why this happened. My husband and I have always used protection and I was planning on getting an iud at my next ob appt. I am beyond shocked and feel sick about this. Not only does not one ounce of me want to be pregnant or have another child, but I haven't taken a single vitamin AND I have probably drank more alcohol in the last 2 months than I have in my whole life thanks to a slew of fun summer parties. I am beyond worried about this baby, I am DREADING taking care of the 3 boys as I get large and miserable, and I am embarrassed and sad knowing that everyone in my life will know i did not plan or want this child.
I feel like my life just went from being perfect to being an overwhelming ****show. I feel so lost. If anyone at all has gone through this and has any perspective to share I would be very grateful. Thank you.
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August 17th, 2014, 01:03 PM
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I kinda relate how you feel or I did when I thought I was pregnant with # 3. After I had my second I felt like our family was complete and we even sold/gave away all of our baby stuff earlier this summer. I was terrified and didn't know if I could mentally raise a third child when I already felt like I reached my limit with the two we have now. Plus I felt awful for random thoughts of not even wanting a third child if I was pregnant.

Well I found out almost three weeks ago that I was indeed pregnant and with our families support and happiness I started to get excited also. It didn't fully hit me that I wanted this baby until a few days ago when I went to the bathroom and wiped and saw blood on the tissue . I knew then that I didn't want to lose my baby, even if he/she was going to be a new challenge for our family, he/she was still my baby.

Luckily we went to the hospital and I saw the heartbeat on the ultrasound and I have another appointment for an ultrasound tomorrow . I am now 7 weeks 3 days pregnant and couldn't feel more protective and love for our new addition. Lucy if she's a girl and Brandon if he's a boy <3.

I understand it's very overwhelming right now but if you decide to keep your baby I'm sure he/she will fit right into your family just as perfectly as your other three . Talk it over with your DH and decide what is the right decision for you both.
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August 19th, 2014, 04:16 PM
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My third was so unexpected but a huge blessing. She is two months old and I am still trying to get used to new routines but she is so worth it. I had also given away almost everything and my next youngest is 6.
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August 21st, 2014, 11:44 AM
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I know exactly what your going through. I know it sounds cliche but hang in there everything happens for a reason
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August 22nd, 2014, 10:25 AM
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This is exactly how I felt when I found out I was due with #3... We were clearly done at 2 and I also sold/got rid of all of my maternity and baby stuff. Now I'm weeks away from delivering a sweet little girl (which I never thought I'd have a girl) Part of me is still scared to death as my husband and I also work fulltime and finances can be tight with the cost of having 3 little ones in daycare/preschool. Everyone tells me it will be ok and it will be ok for you too Praying for comfort for you...
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