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I'm really sorry that someone made you feel unsupported on this board. If you don't mind please PM one of the administrators or let me know who was saying unnecessary comments to you ladies. I'm sorry I missed the post, I have been gone a few days.
Gracie I don't think you should leave...I've been here since I first got pregnant, it has it's ebbs and flows, those people bringing negativity here will soon realize that it is not welcome and leave. Please don't go!
Those who love me know how to reach me...it's been real ladies, peace and love!!
Blondie is right. I did read the post that you are referencing to and please don't take anything she said to heart. Not every unplanned pregnancy provides the same reaction and emotions for everyone. I had so many doubts about everything. I know adoption crossed my mind a few times at the beginning even. There were days where I felt completely helpless, felt like I was so unprepared, the whole nine yards. Please just hang in there!! I really hope that you will stick around! You never know how much your support or your story could help another girl that has an unplanned pregnancy!!
I wasn't going to post again, so this will be it, I just wanted to explain that it isn't just one person who makes me not want to post here, it's 2 or 3.
Some of the girls here were so wonderful, when I first found out I was preggo I didn't know who the dad was, but I wanted the baby no matter what. I already have one child who I love with all my heart and can't wait for this one, so it's not even that the posts were directed at me. I did make one comment once about the "baby" being the reason my relationship with the person I loved ended and it was completely taken out of context. I simply meant that had I not gotten pregnant that time I would still be with him. And Blondie, who was at my rescue stood up for me and understood.
It seems that over the past few weeks the board has become active with people who want to criticize not only myself, but the other ladies here who have unplanned pregnancy's.
When you're in this situation the last thing you need is people telling you to "get over it" or "go get some counseling" maybe they think they're being helpful but in all honesty I can't imagine that these condesending attitudes are helping anyone feel better.
I'm always active in my DDC and on the debate boards, so if anyone ever needs to talk to me they can pm me.
I'm really sorry that anyone has made you feel bad about yourself or the circumstances of your pregnancy. Believe me, I know that posts like that can get very frustrating. I get frustrated when people say that there's no such thing as an unplanned pregnancy or that people with unplanned pregnancies weren't trying hard enough to prevent it, etc. I really hope that you will look beyond those negative comments that were made by others and stick around!! We really would love to have you here!! (Thanks for the congrats!)