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June 7th, 2005, 07:39 AM
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Hi my name is Alisa. I'm 19 and 27 weeks pregnant...I found out December 26th I was expecting. The thing is I was with one guy for like 2 months until the first week of December when my ex came back to me....of course I took him back...so now I'm at loss of who my sons father is! I don't want this to make me sound like a bad person for not knowing. Neither one of the guys, one of whom is 25 and the other 20, wants to be there to help me...the 19 year old told me that if I got him for child support he was going to f*** me up, f*** my life up, burn my stuff and get every penny of it back, when he first found out he was a little shocked but we were going to try and work things out then after a couple days all he would talk about was abortion...I so DID NOT agree with that! And the 25 year old already has 2 kids with 2 different girls so I just think that his problem is him not wanting another kid by a different girl...he keeps insisting that the baby is not his but from my due date and my conception date it is leaning more towards him...he told me not to call him again until we found out for sure the other guy wasnt the father...but if this is how they're going to act then I'm not sure I want either one of them to be a part of my baby's life...it's just not fair to him...all that matters is I've found someone who has accepted me and the baby and wants to be there for both of us and help support and I want the baby to be a part of my life and I'm going to love him unconditionally no matter what the other 2 guys say or do!
Sorry about all the venting...I have no one to talk to about it really...sorry so long but hopefully I will get some replies on this one! Thanks for taking time to read this!
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June 7th, 2005, 08:13 AM
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First of all Hun no one is here to judge. Although your situation is tricky all you can do is what for the baby to arrive and do a paternity test. You are not the only one who has to deal with this kind of situation. JUst be strong and do what you feel is right for you and your baby. You will always have support here Hun
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June 7th, 2005, 11:29 AM
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Hey hun! I am glad that you found JM! Nobody is going to judge you. There have plenty of girls before you in the same dilemma and there will be plenty to follow.

So, maybe I didn't understand your post. Are you currently with anybody? And these 2 guys... neither of them want to be a dad?? I just want to make sure that I understand everything right.

If I was in your position and neither of them want to cooperate, I would just let them go. As far as the one guy, you can get him for child support if he IS the father. He cannot come and do anything to you because you can get a restraining order at the same time you file for child support. I would not worry about him coming after you. There are cops and that's what they're for. So you do what you need to do hun, and I wish you all the luck in the world.

Somehow it will all work out. Congrats on your pregnancy!!! I'm 19 years old and 31 weeks pregnant (almost!) so I know what you're going through. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to e-mail me... kryzif@gmail.com

Good luck dear!
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June 7th, 2005, 02:57 PM
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Yes I am currently with someone that wants to be there for me and the baby as well....Neither one of the other guys that are the possible father are wanting anything to do with the baby which isn't really that big of a deal to me considering I know my baby will be well taken care of and loved more than anything! It just blows my mind that someone could be so cruel and say straight up that they don't want a kid....it's not all my fault that it happened I wish they would take responsibility for their actions as well!
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June 7th, 2005, 03:02 PM
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What a predicament. I'm so sorry this had to happen to you. I hate men like this. All you can do is wait until your beautiful baby is born and get a paternity test. After that, don't worry about it. Baby's dont need peice of sh*t daddy's especially if the dads dont want the babies in the first place. Ever need anything...email me...i'll never judge ya! *hugs*
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What a predicament.* I'm so sorry this had to happen to you.* I hate men like this.* All you can do is wait until your beautiful baby is born and get a paternity test.* After that, don't worry about it.* Baby's dont need peice of sh*t daddy's * especially if the dads dont want the babies in the first place.* Ever need anything...email me...i'll never judge ya!* *hugs*
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Thank you so much for listening to what I have to say...it's nice to know there's someone out there that is willing to!
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That's what we are here for! All of us....just make sure to be there for other girls too! Women always have that one person that can relate to another woman better than any other, and the goal is giving you the oppurtunity to be able to talk to everyone and find that one person that makes you feel the best...even better if you can talk to all of us! None of us will judge you, just support you and your journey on finding out who your babies father is. When are you due?
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June 8th, 2005, 07:36 AM
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Originally posted by Mummy2b@Jun 8 2005, 08:29 AM
That's what we are here for!* All of us....just make sure to be there for other girls too!* Women always have that one person that can relate to another woman better than any other, and the goal is giving you the oppurtunity to be able to talk to everyone and find that one person that makes you feel the best...even better if you can talk to all of us!* None of us will judge you, just support you and your journey on finding out who your babies father is.* * When are you due?
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I try to look at every point of view in every situation and be there for other people as well. Once I get use to this forum stuff I will be more open and start posting more....by the way I am due Sep. 5 with my first son, Dakota Pearson!
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Well, congratulations, being a mommy is wonderful...you'll be fine even if dad isn't around....god made women have the babies for a reason.
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if you really dont want either guy to have any part in your baby's life because they are being such jerks and the guy you are with is willing to be its father you could just leave them out of it and let the guy your with be the father and put him on the birth certificate i have a friend who did that she didnt want anything to do with the biological father and the guy shes with now has benn a wonderful father he is the kids dad and he loves him but thats up to you othr than that all you can do is get a paternity test if you want just know were all here for you and we wouldnt judge anyone your not a bad person and if anyone tell you otherwise tell me and ill beat em up lol i understand about the whole all he wants is abortion thing though im still going through that the father of mine doesnt want anything to do with it but ive got him considering adoption and i hope something will change but if i leave here i have nowhere to go atleast not now so right now all i can do is hope and pray but abortion isnt for mejust like you said you dont agree with that option for you so i understand that part of what your dealing with perfectly
hope everything works out well for all parties esp you and your baby you and your baby are what really matters take care of yourself

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