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February 5th, 2007, 09:59 AM
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okay so i have a delima. I have one son already that is 10 months old. My husband and I are having our second child, im in my 4th month. I don't know how to break it to my parents or my on-laws. this baby wasn't planned at all and we don't know how to tell them. so any suggestions. We have to tell them soon cause i am starting to show a little.
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February 6th, 2007, 05:04 AM
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just tell them straight out. I dont think its any of their business if the baby was planned or not. if you are happy about it then they'll be happy for you. they may be shocked, but thats parents for you.

I dont know your circumstances but even the worst of scenarios turn out alright in the end!
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February 6th, 2007, 01:39 PM
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Contrary to popular belief... not every baby has to be planned in order to be loved!! If you were old enough to be married, don't you think you should be old enough to have as many children as you want whenever you want, planned or not?

Ditto what first time mom said, just tell them straight out.
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February 6th, 2007, 02:04 PM
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I agree with the others, tell them soon.

My BIL and his wife got pregnant again a few months later after the birth of their son. They didn't tell my in-laws until she was about 5 months pregnant. They were disappointed they didn't tell them sooner.

Even if they are mad/disappointed at first, once they see the baby they will love the baby.
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February 6th, 2007, 02:35 PM
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I agree with the ladies on this one.

You're married already so really there's nothing to hide. If they disapprove so be it. You have your own family now.
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February 7th, 2007, 03:22 AM
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exactly, if you are married then you have nothing to be ashamed of or to be nervous about. its expected of married people!
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February 13th, 2007, 06:09 PM
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I'm sure they will be excited! It's another grandbaby for them!!!
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February 22nd, 2007, 11:46 AM
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Just tell them! Are they just going to be upset because the kids will be nearly Irish twins? I know some people and some religions really have issues with that, but personally, I don't really see the problem with Irish twins (other than it's awfully hard on the mothers body).

Our pregnancy is so totally 100% unplanned. I can't honestly say that we were thrilled. We're warming up to it. We just weren't/aren't ready for kids. However, I know that we'll be good parents and once we have the baby we'll love it to pieces.

But anyway, when we told his parents they were absolutely thrilled. They've been BEGGING for grandbabies and we haven't been ponying up the kids because we just didn't really want them/couldn't afford them yet. When we told them they guessed pretty quick that it was an "OOPS" but believe me they do not care. They couldn't be happier about our happy little accident.

My father is a different story. My mom is dead, but she would have been happy. I think all my dad said when we told him was, "Good luck, god knows you two need it." Keep in mind here, we're 28 years old. I really thought his reaction was... small. But it was about what I expected. Anyone who reacts the way my father did is clearly not thinking about the long term picture. I used to worry about what would happen to him, his health, etc... after each phonecall, I now find myself increasingly less concerned for his well being due to his poor attitude towards my child. I think he needs to learn than in a Baby vs. father fight, the baby wins. I'm not going to choose him over my child.

In the end, their reactions really don't matter. Who cares? If they have a poor reaction, then congratulations to them for pushing their children and grandchildren further away and ostrasizing themselves from the family! Go them! A poor reaction will only hurt everyone involved.
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February 23rd, 2007, 04:17 PM
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update guys!!!

well i told my parents and they took it very well. My mother-in-law on the other end freaked out, but she is doing better now.
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