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May 4th, 2007, 03:22 PM
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May 4th, 2007, 03:46 PM
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let bf/s dd see ur baby. though she maybe young she is very wise- im glad she isnt listening to her mom..
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May 4th, 2007, 05:29 PM
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I think you and your boyfriend should have a conversation about what to do. He should be allowed to include his daugther with your pregnancy because that will be her little half brother or sister. I think it's wrong of his ex to be so selfish and jealous. Absolutely ridiculous.

I don't really know what else to tell you Nikki. I think you should take her to the ultrasound anyway!
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May 4th, 2007, 11:37 PM
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I think your bf and his ex need to have a long talk and straighten everything out. She's his daughter and no matter what his ex says this baby will be her brother or sister too and she has every right to be a part of it.
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May 5th, 2007, 03:52 AM
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god, that must be such a hard situation to be in!

but your boyfriend has as much right to share the birth of his second child with his daughter as her mother does. I think they need to have a serious talk. that woman needs to get over herself and realise that no matter what she feels she needs to do whats best for her daughter.

it makes me sick when women use their children to get back at the father when he's doing his best to be a good dad.
nothing good comes from it and its the kids that suffer.

in saying that, i dont think you should go behind the mothers back and bring her to the U/S, that'll only complicate things further. just talk to her and make her see your point! hopefully she'll see sense and agree.

keep us posted!
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May 7th, 2007, 01:38 PM
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ARGH! I hate stupid people!

I can't believe that she is so immature as to put her own child through this! Obviously your boyfriend’s daughter wants to be a part of this and all her "mother" is doing by keeping it from her is hurting the poor girl.

I think that your boyfriend needs to tell this woman to grow up and that his daughter will be a part of his new baby’s life if she likes it or not.

I say take her to the appointment anyway...screw the ex!
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May 7th, 2007, 03:12 PM
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The problem with my bf is he never stands up for himself when it comes to his ex because he is afraid she is going to try to keep their daughter away from him if she doesn't get her way, so them talking never works out in his favour.

When she is angry with him she likes to tell people that he is bad father and doesn't make time for his daughter (He works full time Monday-Friday so he cannot take her those days, but she comes over ever Saturday and Sunday) and that really gets to him because he does care about his daughter, so he tries to keep her mother happy.

Well anyway, we're taking her to the ultrasound, she said she wants to go and she is excited so it is up to her, we're not going to let her mother change her mind.

...it's not for another three weeks though. i want it to hurry!
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May 7th, 2007, 10:05 PM
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I can understand why he doesn't stand up to his ex. Does he have partial custody? It's sad he has to be scared of his ex taking away his daughter though. That isn't right.

I'm glad she is excited about having a little baby brother or sister! I know what you mean you just want it to hurry up. Mine is in 3 weeks too and it feels like forever away...
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May 19th, 2007, 06:47 PM
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wow.. that is sad.. poor kid.. I think that maybe you, her, and the father should have a sit down.. she is jealous of you.. her own daughter can see that. It would also make thing alot easier.. maybe talking will help.. Ive noticed that a lot of problems are lack of communication
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May 19th, 2007, 07:19 PM
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Well she's being better now. She is fine with us talking her daughter to the ultrasound and everything.
I am sure she still secretly hates me but she has been putting in the effort to act nice and talk to me once in a while. I don't care if it's fake as long as she doesn't act the way she did before.
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May 20th, 2007, 02:15 PM
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i'm so happy to hear she's allowing the little girl to go! let her be fake all she wants as long as the little girl isnt caught in the middle. she's whats important.

how long to go till the u/s now?
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May 21st, 2007, 12:14 AM
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May 21st, 2007, 04:09 AM
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is that the big one? do you want to know the sex of the baby?
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May 21st, 2007, 04:49 PM
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Yes and yes!
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May 21st, 2007, 04:53 PM
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Yeah!!! I can't wait to find out what you are having!

I am also really glad that your BF's daughter is going to be able to attend the ultrasound with you guys!
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May 21st, 2007, 07:32 PM
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thats a bunch of bull your bf has every right to bring her to the ultrasound
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May 22nd, 2007, 03:24 AM
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thats a bunch of bull your bf has every right to bring her to the ultrasound[/b]
she is going to the u/s.

nikki, any suspicions as to what it might be? I was so convinced i was having a girl and i was right! i'm forever a believer in mothers intuition now!
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May 22nd, 2007, 07:13 AM
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I really wanted a girl when we first found out but after a few weeks i was convinced it was a boy. Now I really have no idea what i want. I am just excited to see him/her, I haven't had an ultrasound yet.
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I really wanted a girl when we first found out but after a few weeks i was convinced it was a boy. Now I really have no idea what i want. I am just excited to see him/her, I haven't had an ultrasound yet.[/b]
That was exactly me! And we are having a girl.
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May 22nd, 2007, 10:36 AM
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I think your b/f and his ex need to work it out. Let him make a decision and let his ex know what he wants to do, that way you aren't in the middle. I feel so bad for you.
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