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Well we took the paternity test today and he told me if she comes back his, he wants joint custody. I really don't want that, i mean i dunno how his family is gonna treat her. I dunno maybe i should just ask him to sign over his rights but i also want some help. Dunno any suggestions??
if he comes back as the dad i would suggest talking to a family lawyer. The lawyer can help you put restrictions on the way that he sees her. I had a friend that did this and she had it to where if the dad wanted to see her baby he had to come to her and then could only stay in the city limits. They put a tracker on his car and if he passed the line the cops came after him and would take him in as kidnapping a child. Then if his parents wanted to see her baby they had to pay for all the travel exspences. That included gas, food, hotel for the night for the both of them and so on. That would be something to consider and the lawyer can help you in many ways.
If he gets joint custody he'll still have to pay you child support because you'll likely have her most of the time.
Maybe you can arrange for supervised visits if you do not feel comfortable leaving her alone with him.
first_time_mom: i think his family would be bad for her, they don't like me. I feel like he doesn't want her at all and he's only asking for joint cause he's gonna pay for her. I actually wanted him to get the paternity cause then it would prove i wasn't lieing about the situation.
lisa rene: yea i met his family they hate me thats why i don't want him to get joint i'm scared they'll treat her bad.
monkey7178: i hope i can get something like that. I guess all in all i'm just scared his family isn't gonna really except her kwim?
nikki: thats what his ex wife got with their son and then the judge said he was a good enough of father to share joint custody. So i dunno if it would work.
couldnt you get a custody order where only he sees her?
if you think his family are bad for your daughter then keep her away from them. even if it means that you'll lose out on child support, Sasha is the most important thing, you need to keep her safe and raise her right. I know its easy for me to say that, i'm not in your situation, i just think that keeping your little girl away from bad people is more important than money.