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<span style="color:#000080">Just wanted to say hello.
My name is Christie and I just found out last Wednesday that I am pregnant with #1. I'm due either Oct 31 or Nov 1.
My blinkies tell my story...my "boyfriend" (of about 6 weeks) decided he didn't want to be a dad (again) after I told him I was pregnant, so it looks like I will be doing this alone (well, with my family's support...when I tell them ). I know there is a good man out there somewhere who will be a good father to my child. I am a strong person and I know I will be fine on my own.
I think I've finally gotten over the initial shock of being pregnant since we were DEFINITELY not ttc and am getting excited about this journey. Sperm donor (I'm not hattin - it takes 2 to tango) has 4 kiddos, 3 w/ his x wife (9,8 & 5) and a 3 yr old w/ baby's mama, so he is less than excited about this. We haven't even spoke about this face to face since I told him the news Wed. It's all been over phone, email and text. He wants me to have an abortion..."take care of it". He's sent me the address and phone for the women's clinic. Even offered to make the appointment and go WITH me! He's got his hands full and pockets empty w/ the ones he has, he's in a custody battle w/ the baby's granny for her"...blah blah excuses, excuses. Nice, huh! So before I get all worked up ...if anyone has any advice, feel free! </span>
First off, congrats. secondly, it's not going to be easy. Your family will probably be your biggest support system during your pregancy. I, like you, am going through this alone. The past few months have been hard and while I'm almost done and due this month to give birth to my handsome son, I know it's only going to get harder..... but if you keep this baby, does the dad want to be involved in the child's life? or, given the fact that he's already got some kids, does he just want to stay out of the baby's life, not playing an active role?
I know that my son's dad has no intention of being there for my son, and that's fine with me. Shane will be his first child and I know that there are so many other men in my life who can act like father figures to him... so even if you want to keep the baby and he decides he doesn't want to play an active role in this child's life, you probably have other men in your life to act as father figures for him/her when he/she is born. again, it'll be hard, but the ladies here are great at giving advice and I've found this board very helpful to me..... again, congrats....
I know it's not gonna be easy or fun, but I have faith. This is not my "ideal" situation of my first child/pregnancy. Cudos to you for what you've both been through. I am keeping the baby and I've told him that numerous times. So far, the response I've got is that he does NOT want to be a part of this. It's still only been a week since we found out, so I'm kinda hopin he'll come around...for the baby's sake. But if not, I told him, his loss. But he dosen't want some strange dude raising his kid either so I dunno...we'll see.