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I freakin hate when people ask me this!!! I just ran into a woman I worked with (don't know her well, we worked in the same school but she was in lower grades and I taught higher so we barely talked) and she asked me that. Why do people think they have the right to ask such a personal question?!?! And when my 3 year old, who understands all, is around?!? Yes, our 3 were very much planned, but do you really think I'd want my 3 year old to know one (or more) of them weren't planned if that were the case?!?? ARRRRRG, some people need to think.
nobody ever asked me that one!! and if my kids were with me (which they obviously have to be for somebody to ask that! LOL) I would just plain lie, because as you said I dont want them to know!!!! I mean what difference does it make?? I love them all very much, and doesnt matter to us how we got them LOL
My only planned pregnancy was number 4 LOL, I actually think it is funny but no ones business!!
I get this question a lot, and I only have 2. People assume if you're kids are close in age it had be an accident b/c you were irresponsible. Like widely spaced kids are is the ONLY way to do it, and if you choose to have them close in age you're crazy, KWIM? A lot of times after they realize how rude they were, they try throw the compliment out. "Oh I could never be that strong to have two so close in age."
Laura (26), proud wife to my Air Force veteran Dave (33) and blessed mommy to Lucas (5) and Laylah (4) and always remembering our Angel (July 4, 2005)
I just don't understand why people think it is ok to ask questions like this especially in front of one of your children. I am the oldest of 7 children so I often heard comments like this made to me or my mom quite often. Because of personal beliefs we don't use birth control and will most likely end up with a large family with kids spaced close together. I've already tried to prepare dh that for the rude remarks that some people make (he was the baby of 5 so he hasn't had to deal with this). So far I haven't had any rude remarks which kidn of surprised me since a lot of our extended family does not think we should have had kids so soon or that we can't support them (it's not like we're begging them for money or anything!). I'm sure things have been said behind our backs but so far we've just gotten some awkward silences when the subject comes up. I also had a lot of strange looks when I started showing during this pregnancy because people weren't sure if I was pregnant or it was just baby fat left over from the 8 month old I was carrying! DH and I just try to stay really positive and tell people how excited we are to be expecting another baby and that we feel that God has truly blessed us. I figure it isn't worth my energy to get all offended by other people's rude remarks.
Ruth - Wife to Scott, Mommy to Will (12/2007), James (3/2009), Ellie (11/2010), & Faith (9/2012)
That is very rude. Especially since you had your 3 year old with you. I have come to the conclusion that people just don't think or they are just ignorant. I'm trying my best not to get bent out of shape by other's comments right now. I figure that in a few years the kids will be old enough that people won't be gawking anymore. I think a lot of people are just in awe when they see a few babies, toddlers or preschoolers all together. My guess is that by grade school it won't be so bad.
That is very rude. I used to take my daughter to baby group she was 10.5 months and i had 5 weeks left to go before lacey came and nobody even dared asked if i was pregnant incase it was baby fat, i finally said to the lady that i wouldnt be around for a bit because im due to give birth soon she was like "omg your pregnant again?!" alot of people are shocked at closely spaced siblings it gets boring after a while lol
lol..I get that all the time too. I was just shocked the first time - I couldn't believe anyone would ask that. I guess I'm used to it now. I always answer "yes"....and I would even if they were all unplanned. Some people....