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April 7th, 2011, 08:38 AM
~LaurenNoel~'s Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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NAK....

This is hard. Ruby is 7 weeks today, Wes is 21 mths. Someone is always crying. Ruby screams if she is not touching me in some way, so I constantly wear her. Wearing her makes picking up Wes difficult, but he is still small (21 lbs and short) so he needs a lot of help still. They never sleep at the same time, and she sleeps with me in the bed so I can nurse her and get 2-3 hrs of sleep. Wes is constantly hitting, pinching, or biting Ruby and me. DH works a lot, so I am alone with them all the time. I just keep wondering what on earth was I thinking? Of course I love them to death. Please tell me this gets easier!
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April 7th, 2011, 10:55 AM
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Hi there, I have a 3 year old a 2 year old and a 1 year old.
12 months between my first 2 and 14 months between my second 2. So I know the feeling.

It is tough and I can understand the strain. I always had a newborn or was always pregnant. It DOES get easier. I stuck to a routine when it came to naps. I fed my LO's on demand since a routine is so hard with feedings. I nursed Shylah and Sam was ALWAYS right there, she to was tiny though. When Shy would nap, I would give my Full attention to sam and when Sam would nap I would give full attention to shy.

After about 6 months I got them on the same sleeping schedule since I was pregnant with Logan lol So we all 3 napped together. But trust me, it does get easier. Its getting past the randomness of a newborn that is always a hard part. Your LO will adjust to feedings soon and your newborn will soon adjust to being away from you for a bit.

Keep your head up mama, it does get easier and it is a strain and sometimes SUPER hard. But it will go down hill from here.
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April 7th, 2011, 11:38 AM
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it does get easier!! i have a 3yr, 2yr and a 11month old & it's really hard at first but once you get them into the same sleeping routine and get a few minutes to yourself each day (while they are napping) it refreshes you!
Lacey is the same with Lucas she is always so rough with him! either pulling him around, squeezing his cheeks or just plain thinking she can roll around on the floor with him, i tell her constantly to leave him alone so i feel your frustration there! i think as Wes gets older though he will understand he can't be so rough with her.
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April 7th, 2011, 12:10 PM
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Thanks ladies. I feel like a crazy person peeing with one kid strapped to me, while yelling for the other one to get out of the cabinets, lol. Wesley and I had an awesome routine and things were so great and easy. Ruby just turned things upside-down.
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Ruby (2.16.11)
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April 7th, 2011, 06:02 PM
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April 9th, 2011, 08:23 PM
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Oh My Word, I could have written everything you said word for word a couple of months ago!

Let me just say, you are NOT going crazy (even though you feel like it!), and YES, it DOES get easier! And if it's any consolation, I'm actually getting baby fever again, even after going through all that! (but I'm ignoring it for now, trying to remind myself how hard it was at first!)

Hang in there! You WILL make it!

Tip- if at all possible, learn to wear you NB on your back...It's sooo helpful in that it allows you to snuggle the older sibling, and give them a little more attention!

I used this carry all the time with my DS (DS2 was about a month old here. Sorry for the poor quality of the pic. It was snapped from my old cell phone)
YouTube - Double Hammock (Chunei) Carry from Wrap Your Baby


and here's a more recent pic using this method- YouTube - Reinforced Rucksack Carry with Tibetan finish Or here- YouTube - Reinforced Rucksack Carry with Tibetan finish


BTW- I have a cotton gauze wrap, and I absolutely LOVE it!! It's very lightweight, and being non-stretchy- it's totally safe for back carry, and suitable for any age- NB though toddlerhood! I bought mine here- Baby The Baby Slings by babythebaby on Etsy

Sorry to hijack the thread...I hope it helps, and/or you figure out something that works for you!
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April 10th, 2011, 09:38 PM
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IT all gets easier, they won't always both be or one or the other be screaming.
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April 22nd, 2011, 01:56 PM
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It will get easier....I promise. The first three months are the worst because you are in pure survival mode...but it gradually gets better and better. Do you have a safe place set up for Ruby (an area that Wes can't get to)? That was very very valuable to me...the times JoJo actually let me put her down I never had to worry about lil Jimmy messing with her. We will have the same set up for the twins.

It can't be to bad if many of us here keep doing it...lol
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