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So I just found out I'm expecting baby #4 in December. By the time this baby comes my oldest will be 4 1/2. We never planned them so close, but I actually like it this way. My girls are 3,2 & 9 months right now. I have no idea how to tell family we are expecting again because i know the smartass comments we'll get. How did you tell your family you were pregnant ahain so soon after tje last baby? Any advice?
My family were very happy for us that baby 2 came along so soon. DH's family are a little more conservative and thought it was unplanned. I was dreading telling them as they were not happy for us the first time I was pregnant (we lost that baby).
But, it's your life, not theirs! People will always have their opinions regardless of what you do. Just try to enjoy and ignore any negativity.
Family members and friends will always have something to say when you make an announcement about being pregnant again. You hope it will be supportive but sometimes it isn't especially when you need the support ant don't want to be judged! You might want to wait, if you can, and tell them when you find out the gender?
I must admit before I got pregnant with my son I used to wonder why people had kids close in age and I always thought to myself "why would someone want to have kids close together?" Of course when I fell pregnant unexpectedly I was one of the people who got the looks and comments like "wow she is pregnant again" or "I feel sorry for you being pregnant in the summer with a baby/toddler." I just have 2 kids but I would love to have 2 more close in age again if our financial situation changes so I am sure our family would think we are crazy, lol!
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Kelly and John- Married: Sep 30th, 2006
Skyla Helen- Feb 2nd, 2008
Tyler Lyman- Sep 6th, 2009
With my 2nd pregnancy, my family wasn't thrilled. My oldest son had just turned one when we found out we were expecting twins. But my family came around once they were born. Now I have 4 kids. My oldest is 8, my twins will be 7 in a few months, and my DSD is 6. Family/friends saw that I could handle everything just fine and they stopped making comments.
I bought myself a maternity shirt that said. "Yes I am pregnant again and yes I do know what causes it."
I really wanted one that flipped the bird and said MYOB. but since I do have children that can read it was the best I could do.
Angel '97 Aundrea '04 Alex '06 Ammon '08 Aleah '10 Ava '10 Adalyn '12
I dreaded it, paniced, than sucked it up and ripped the band-aid off and just did it. You know it's gunna suck, but it's gonna happen so just might as well brace yourself and get it over with. With most families, after the initial shock and comments, once it's starts becoming real people start getting over it and excited to meet the new little person.
Angel Baby gone at 9 weeks, 7/8/13
We have similar spacing. My kids are getting big now though...they're seven, six, four, and two.
As for family, you just have to be happy and confident. If you feel you may not get a good reaction I would honestly tell them by letter or e-mail. Give them a chance to get used to the news before speaking to you, you know? And just remember that if they love you and your current babies, they will love this one too! No one thought we should stop at two more than my mother, but she is still a good Grandma to all four babies.
I sent this poem to my in-laws for #4. Who couldn't be happy after reading this?
Dear Grandpa & Grandma,
I do not have a face to see,
Or put inside a frame.
I do not have soft cheeks to kiss.
I don't yet have a name.
Not yet can you hold my tiny hands,
Nor whisper in my ear.
It's still too soon to sing a song,
Or cuddle me so near.
But all that will change come this October;
When they say I am due.
I am your newest grandchild;
And I can't wait until I meet you!
All I ask between now and then
Is your love for me to grow.
I promise I'll be worth the wait;
Just think of all the joy we'll know!
So as you're waiting patiently,
Please pray lots of prayers for me.
I cannot wait to be a part
Of this wonderful family!
Everyone should be happy, but you know you'll get the "funny" comments, or at least I did. "don't you know how that happens" "dont you own a tv?" blah blah. people think they are funny haha. i love having my close kids!