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Have you dealt with any judgement for having kids close together? We haven't announced this pregnancy yet but we found out the day before my daughter's first birthday that we are expecting baby #2. We are excited considering how long it took us to get pregnant with our DD.
I do have a few judgemental people around though and thought I'd see if there were any tips in dealing with them?
We are expecting baby #4, which will make 4 kids under age 5. I get comments from strangers as well as friends/family. At the store or running errands, I hear "You sure are busy" or "You sure have your hands full". I want to say "Yeah, no $h*t. Thanks for noticing." But I just smile politely and keep walking. When we announce a pregnancy, friends and family will say "Again?! OMG, you guys are nuts" or "You're crazy", and even "Geez, you're a baby machine". Nice, right? My standard response is always "Yeah, well we love having them all close in age. I wouldn't trade it." Just show people how happy you are, and don't let their rudeness or ignorance get to you.
"Moms, even good ones, sometimes lose it a little so as not to lose it all.”
This will be our 4th kid in 5 years.. when i had the girls (12months apart) i did get alot of how sad it was that rhianna didn't get much attention or time at all before Lacey came along etc i was pretty judged by their age gap
Mine are 14.5 months apart and I just try to remind everyone how happy I am to have two kids close in age. I do get a lot of comments, the usual, "you sure have your hands full" and I always respond with "I have great kids so I love it" or something similar. Just showing people you are happy and not overwhelmed, even when you are having a rough day, or both kids are being ridiculous at the grocery store, just smile. Works best and shuts people up!
DON'T listen to them! The judgmental people are NOT the people you want to be around anyway! You want to cast those people out or ignore them. They are generally the types who will not help you or encourage you when you need it. Most importantly, they will not be raising your children, so who cares about them.
I agree, don't listen to the negative people! My girls are 18 months apart and I constantly have people saying things like "wow you have your hands full" but I also get a lot of "you girls are so cute!". I try to let any criticism go in one ear and out the other and focus on all the positives. When I see my girls laughing together, I am reminded of how happy I am they have each other!
Don't worry about what they say. My oldest is 2.5 andi have 15 month old twins. I get all the replies wow you have your hands full. Yes we do but you know what it's a lot of fun. And chaos. We are working on number 4 now.
Yeah, especially when they were younger we would get comments all of the time. It bothered me so bad i got angry. We have 5 kids 8 years apart. They are now 6-14 yrs old and we really dont get it as much anymore when we go out...still some but not bad AND the best thing is I dont CARE anymore!!! Comment away people, it doesnt bother me, these are my children I love them, I am sorry if you dont agree with having 5 keep it to yourself kwim lol! Uhh anyway, yep been there
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